"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Girl says I may be "the one" but.. should I believe her?

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azanon said:
I would have a hard time not laughing if a woman said that to me. At the very least, I'd think of a quick "balancing" quip to respond to that immediately. Then, I'd think about what I said or did that even gave her the "balls" to make such a power-play statement in my presence.

The real question (if at all) should be if she is the one for you. You should be the one that's choosing, ....... or not choosing.

It is so critical to the DJ mindset to start thinking in terms of wondering how lucky a woman would be for you to pick her, not vise versa. If a woman wouldn't be super lucky for you to pick her, then you still have some work to do on you.
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I was thinking exactly the same thing. :up:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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azanon said:
I would have a hard time not laughing if a woman said that to me. At the very least, I'd think of a quick "balancing" quip to respond to that immediately. Then, I'd think about what I said or did that even gave her the "balls" to make such a power-play statement in my presence.

The real question (if at all) should be if she is the one for you. You should be the one that's choosing, ....... or not choosing.

It is so critical to the DJ mindset to start thinking in terms of wondering how lucky a woman would be for you to pick her, not vise versa. If a woman wouldn't be super lucky for you to pick her, then you still have some work to do on you.
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Damn. This really made me think and you are absolutely right. I had this mindset when I was single and girls were obsessed with me. Now that I'm in a relationship I think I just let my guard down which SUCKS. It's easy to do this when you get too comfortable. But I'm definitely going to work on this. Appreciate the insight.


-Pseudo AFC
 
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