my aunt has three daughters, the younger two were very close in age.
both swore they never wanted to have kids because they did not want their kids to grow up in a house that is too small where they fight all the time.
the older one never brought the subject up.
flash forward to today:
oldest one is 30, married, just had her 3rd baby and just went back to working full time as her stupid husband can't find work again this year. (her children are 8, 4 and newborn)
middle one is 22 and has moved out of state , all expenses paid by her work, with no kids. her plan is to one day be financially able to adopt a child or two whenever she marries, which is no time soon.. but her boyfriend wouldn't mind having them now.
youngest one is 21 and just gave birth to her 3rd baby and brought him home to her mother's house where she and her baby daddy live and do not work... because they are not qualified to do anything and have been there since last year. (her children are 2, 1 and newborn) the hospital refused to tie her tubes because her dr's office waited one week too long to have her sign the form and the form must be signed by a certain date before you give birth to qualify.
now, 3 years ago, both of the younger cousins did not want any children. now the younger one has 3. see how easy things change?
my aunt, on the other hand, just keeps working to pay the bills so that none of these grandchildren go without. i can understand it, but at the same time, there is no way in heck my mother would permit me and a husband to lay around and continue to make babies while we make her earn the living for it.
however, my middle cousin that has no children, is a good girl. i can't say she isn't womanly, because she is. whenever she has a need to hold a baby, she babysits her nieces and nephews. i don't feel there is anything wrong with it.