Girl pulled back after awesome dates / She is not texting anymore

[AM349]

So i have noticed this pattern that between the 3th and 5th woman tend too pull back. All the dates useally go well and we end up in the bedroom, but they all suddenly decide after a couple of dates to take a bit of distance.

How do you guys handle this pull back? Do nothing and let her text first or...? Is it some kind of ****test?

I have this plate that i have been seeing for the past 4 weeks, and we ended up in the bedroom everytime, and we also have a great time together. She has expressed that she is liking me a lot but since our last date she hasn't texted me even tough she litterally begged me to stay longer with her.

She useally texts me around monday or tuesday, but it is already thursday and still no text. Should I text her, or just wait for her to text me?

Thanks in advance for the responses, i am interested in hearing them.

 

[AM349]

In general, don't expect rational / logical behaviour. How old are these women?

20-25 most of them. The one i talked about is 24

 

[Clockwerk50]

It’s hard to say. Perhaps you became too familiar to them—like they discovered everything about you—and while the relationship gained comfort, it may have lost the elements of fantasy, excitement, and erotic tension.

Another possibility is that the relationship settled into a routine, and you may have stopped putting in the effort to give them the attention they needed.

Maybe you started acting clingy, selfish, or stingy, among other things.

Another man came into the picture.

Like I said, it is hard to say...I would text her though, it might be your turn to pursue.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Typically only if they are losing interest or there is someone else she is more interested in that has entered the picture.

Or she decided she doesn't see any future potential with you. Why? Who knows.

Could be for lots of reasons some of which have nothing to do with you at all.

 

[SW15]

No one on this forum would know the answer.

@AM349 -- what are your goals? Shorter term sex? Longer term relationships? Are you getting sex before they fade away?

 

[The Duke]

@AM349 what do you think is causing this to happen?

 

[AM349]

@AM349 what do you think is causing this to happen?

I just think it is a ****test and she wants me to persue her because she has been complaining that i act like i don't care.

Her birthday was last sunday, so some ex could have texted '''happy birtday'' back into her life lol.

 

[AM349]

No one on this forum would know the answer.

@AM349 -- what are your goals? Shorter term sex? Longer term relationships? Are you getting sex before they fade away?

Keep her for the long term rotation. She is fun and s is great, but no wifey material.

 

[The Duke]

I just think it is a ****test and she wants me to persue her because she has been complaining that i act like i don't care.

Her birthday was last sunday, so some ex could have texted '''happy birtday'' back into her life lol.

What have you done that makes her think you don't care?

 

[AM349]

What have you done that makes her think you don't care?

Date 1 time a week. Taking hours to text back, because i am busy with life. Acting warm and cold during dates.

 

[The Duke]

Date 1 time a week. Taking hours to text back, because i am busy with life. Acting warm and cold during dates.

The one time a week date is fine, but the rest is probably your problem. I'm guessing you read that you should act difficult, but when they are interested it just makes you look like a dihk that isn't interested.

 

[AM349]

The one time a week date is fine, but the rest is probably your problem. I'm guessing you read that you should act difficult, but when they are interested it just makes you look like a dihk that isn't interested.

How should i act then?

 

[Agamemnon43]

You failed to make an emotional connection, and they probably don't want just a sexks doll.

 

[RangerMIke]

Normal female behavior.

She is a 'plate' to you: you are a 'plate' to her and her attention is someplace else.

If you want to see her... call and make a date. If she is still interested she will make time for you, if not.... well move on. Wondering why she isn't making more of an effort is a waste of time.

 

[The Duke]

How should i act then?

Be real, don't put on an act. Don't try to be a difficult dihkhead. Stop playing games you don't understand how to play.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

She likely feels you are using her only for sex and thinks that's all you want. Which it is by what you are saying.

But that's not all she wants most likely.

Nothing wrong with having sex with women, but unless you want this to continue to happen they have to believe there is something else you want from them and that you are actually interested in them as a person.

IMO, you are making them feel like a cheap slut and they don't want to feel like that.

 

[Divorced w 3]

So i have noticed this pattern that between the 3th and 5th woman tend too pull back. All the dates useally go well and we end up in the bedroom, but they all suddenly decide after a couple of dates to take a bit of distance.

How do you guys handle this pull back? Do nothing and let her text first or...? Is it some kind of ****test?

I have this plate that i have been seeing for the past 4 weeks, and we ended up in the bedroom everytime, and we also have a great time together. She has expressed that she is liking me a lot but since our last date she hasn't texted me even tough she litterally begged me to stay longer with her.

She useally texts me around monday or tuesday, but it is already thursday and still no text. Should I text her, or just wait for her to text me?

Thanks in advance for the responses, i am interested in hearing them.

If it’s a pattern, you would be the common denominator. A lot of good feedback here on how women tend to act in general, examine these relationships with this in mind and see if you find common patterns

 

[Solomon]

Typically only if they are losing interest or there is someone else she is more interested in that has entered the picture.

Or she decided she doesn't see any future potential with you. Why? Who knows.

Could be for lots of reasons some of which have nothing to do with you at all.

^^This there is no need to mentally masturbate if a woma nshows high IL initally then it wanes suddenly or slowly it means she lost interst
happens all the time

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

Hey man, burn this onto your frontal cortex and you will be smooth sailing life..before a chick becomes your official LTR/girlfriend/bonnie always assume that she is talking to another dude. Better yet assume that she is getting railed by at least that one dude. More times than not they have a fall back guy. Remember, she still posing in the open market (social media, exes, coworkers, friends of friends etc)
On a further note, seasoned chicks who have been riding the pony for a while also have their player ways if her instincts pick up that you don’t see her for anything serious other than an after 9pm “sport fvck”. Unless your game is as sharp as surgeon’s scalpel, they will treat you accordingly and pull sh!t like this. Never dismiss female game.
keep one foot grounded in the basics.

ps. Call her and don’t bring any of this up. Get in her feelz again. If she don’t pick up and doesn’t call you back in a timely frame then put her on ice.

 

[BadBoy89]

Should you text her? Never understand these types of questions from men. What do you want from her?

If you want to have sex with her, text her
If you want to hang out with her, text her
If you need help from her, text her
If you want emotional support and have her care about you / care you alive, don't text her.