"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl online asking me to add her on facebook

Dust 2 Dust

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I don't have a Facebook account so her request would be out of the question for me.

Guy: "Give me your number".
Girl: "Look me up on Facebook"=The new rejection.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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While the above is true, simply asking for her last name to look her up is an appropriate question if you've just met, have chemistry, but one of you has to go. Then if you email them on FB (do not friend request) and they write back they might offer their cell number and then you can text them.
 

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Just replied to her ,


Hello,


For now i prefer not to give away my FB, can i please have your phone number?

That's it.
 

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Till now , no response from her. and i dont think she will respond.

well- its her loss...
 

zorg198

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Ohhhhh what a surprise ,

i replied to her this morning :

?For now i prefer not to give my FB account , can please i have your number

she replied:

Yeah, that makes sense. my number is xxxxxxxxx
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Hello,

Yesterday i went with this girl on a date , it was great- was 4 hours.

what should i do now?
 

Who Dares Win

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zorg198 said:
Hello,

Yesterday i went with this girl on a date , it was great- was 4 hours.

what should i do now?
Any kino,kiss did u escalate or managed to get something?
 

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when we were walking i hugged her and she also put her hand around me , in the end of the date i kissed her on the lips.
 

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These b!tches on Facebook = attention hoes, I really waste time there whenever I go there. Very few put out, for me, at least. Just got flat rejected after a month of grooming her. They change their minds once their friends list grows and grows. I can't keep up. A woman's silly "friends" just keeps growing and growing and growing double (even triple) the rate mine has, without much effort on her part.
 

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Poonani Maker said:
These b!tches on Facebook = attention hoes, I really waste time there whenever I go there. Very few put out, for me, at least. Just got flat rejected after a month of grooming her. They change their minds once their friends list grows and grows. I can't keep up. A woman's silly "friends" just keeps growing and growing and growing double (even triple) the rate mine has, without much effort on her part.


Hey ,

That's why i didn't gave her my FB , she gave me her number anyway...

we went out to a date yesterday and it was great , Kino and all...

now , how long should i wait till the next date? 3 , 4 days then contact her?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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zorg198

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Hey guys,
Since Thursday i didn't talk with her , should i call her ?
 

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^wait till monday...otherwise she will think you are free on the weekend and have no life....patience is the key when making a nice kebab,you marinate the meat for a couple of days THEN you grill it...same thing for girls
meanwhile keep looking for other "conquests"...
 

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I keep log in to JDATE and looking for other girls , its irony but since i dated this chick i got messages from other girls ....
 

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Good job dude. You must continue. Women love to see you with other women, and to see you treat them like sh!t. I fvcke them over routinely, they tell their friends, then when I get around one who starts off negative just totally hateful towards me cause of things she's heard, we're alone now, and she sees that I'm not really like that way, and bam she's interested. But I only give her maybe 5 mins of my nice side, then I'll leave. Then she will fvck me when no one's noticing.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Good for you. P.S. F&ck Facebook and Zuckerberg.
 

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Well,

Just finished my second date with her, went really good- 4 hours.

we walked hugging each other and talking blah blah blah... in the end of the date i walked her to her door and kissed her for a while.

Felt good :)
 

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What you guys to do on a third date?

I was the one who paid this time again on the date , i don't care to tell the truth.
she works very hard for penis so its OK

Do you guys have any good ideas for a third date? restaurant and movie are ok but they are boring like hell.

Something exciting will be good..
 

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72 hour rule fool.

Third date should be at your crib or her crib. It's time to seal the deal.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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