"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Girl Offers To Help Me Pickup Other Girls?!?

evesman

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I was out working it a couple weekends ago. One situation frustrated me: I'm wondering if I should've looked at it as an opportunity rather than as a brush off.

I was talking to a couple of Asian girls. One was very cute, and she gravitated towards me when I opened them both. As in, hogging the conversation, making strong eye contact and so on. I don't recall a lot of the conversation, but I joked around with her saying that I was a "babysitter." For some reason, she really dug that.

As my "reward" she said she was going to help me pick up "other girls." I took this to mean that she was not PERSONALLY interested but would help me find other girls who were interested. Or, was she suggesting a threesome?

I took it as an indication she wasn't interested, or at best playing hard to get.

How would you have taken this and followed up? I figured: shy Asian girl, she doesn't want to hook up tonight...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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fertileTurtle

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Good girl. Now I reward you with a kung fu fvck.
 

horaholic

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let her. Her jealousy will kick in, and you will have two girls interested.
 

Gangster Of Love

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evesman said:
I was out working it a couple weekends ago. One situation frustrated me: I'm wondering if I should've looked at it as an opportunity rather than as a brush off.

I was talking to a couple of Asian girls. One was very cute, and she gravitated towards me when I opened them both. As in, hogging the conversation, making strong eye contact and so on. I don't recall a lot of the conversation, but I joked around with her saying that I was a "babysitter." For some reason, she really dug that.

As my "reward" she said she was going to help me pick up "other girls." I took this to mean that she was not PERSONALLY interested but would help me find other girls who were interested. Or, was she suggesting a threesome?

I took it as an indication she wasn't interested, or at best playing hard to get.

How would you have taken this and followed up? I figured: shy Asian girl, she doesn't want to hook up tonight...
That's what it meant. She is not PERSONALLY interested, but thought you were nice, and thought you'd need the help.

She was not suggesting a threesome. Can't be a shy Asian girl who doesn't want to hook up tonight and be looking for a threesome at the same time.

Yes, use her as social prof, and be friends with them, you can later go out socially and pick up more.
 

Cinamon

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I'll help you pick up girls = shy asian girl getting to know u better without the chat up awkwardness to see if she wants it
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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