"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I would suggest you not ask her if she just wants to be friends. She a girl so her emotions are crazy because of that alone. She just broke up with her boyfriend so multiply that by 100. Basically, she doesn't know what the hell she wants.

I would then suggest that you set up another date, even though she's blown you off twice already. If she bails out of the 3rd, then blow her off. Too many girls in the world for you to be worried about 1. Get out there and find them. You'll be out with hot chicks everyother night and she'll be at home still trying to figure out what happened with her ex-boyfriend.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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kdnash82 said:
I would suggest you not ask her if she just wants to be friends. She a girl so her emotions are crazy because of that alone. She just broke up with her boyfriend so multiply that by 100. Basically, she doesn't know what the hell she wants.

I would then suggest that you set up another date, even though she's blown you off twice already. If she bails out of the 3rd, then blow her off. Too many girls in the world for you to be worried about 1. Get out there and find them. You'll be out with hot chicks everyother night and she'll be at home still trying to figure out what happened with her ex-boyfriend.
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What the heck is this site turning into? Set up a third date?!?!?! Why? Believing that this girl will "come around" is pure fantasy. She doesn't "see him as boyfriend material now.

What do you guys expect her to tell him? "Well since you put it that way, I'll stop thinking about my ex and devote my time to you. You're a good guy and have always been there for me." That bullsh!t ain't gonna happen.
 
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Beware of being the "Rebound Guy." :nono:
 
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Pappadapolis said:
What the heck is this site turning into? Set up a third date?!?!?! Why? Believing that this girl will "come around" is pure fantasy. She doesn't "see him as boyfriend material now.

What do you guys expect her to tell him? "Well since you put it that way, I'll stop thinking about my ex and devote my time to you. You're a good guy and have always been there for me." That bullsh!t ain't gonna happen.
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Who said anything about him becoming a boyfriend. She's just got out of a relationship. His whole mentality should be just to get some booty. if he's after a relationship with this girl, then he needs a kick in the butt.

Get the booty, move on, if she comes back for more, then great for you.
 
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Why are you wasting time with this woman? Ask her for $80 in counciling fee's and tell her that the time is up.

Cut her off. Nappy, I don't think you quite understand what this site is about. I Sentence you to 40hrs of reading this entire site. and 20 additional hrs of re-reading the DJ Bible.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Pappadapolis said:
Don't send her any messages, cut her off. Chicks will tell you what you want to hear just to string you along. You're giving her the attention she can't get from her ex. You're already in the friend zone. Keeping contact with this girls is a crutch, it shows you can't go without her.

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Nice video.
But it doesn't matter what she thinks of me, when I send the message? if I wont ever see her again, right? I could tell her I'm an AFC fagg0t and it wouldn't make a difference. It would, if I still wanted to see her, but now I dont so...
 
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Nice video.
But it doesn't matter what she thinks of me, when I send the message? if I wont ever see her again, right? I could tell her I'm an AFC fagg0t and it wouldn't make a difference. It would, if I still wanted to see her, but now I dont so...
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I could be missing something here but why do you even need to send her a message. Want to really gauge her interest? Like several others have said already, just completely cease contact. If she starts to contact you wondering what's going on then there's at least some interest but no more than that. If not, well then you saved yourself the bother.
 
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do NOT send that message.
it will get you no where and she will NEVER contact you again and you will come off looking like some weirdo guy who wont leave her alone.

please respect yourself enough not to send her any texts stuff what so ever.
 
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But I should at least tell her we're not gonna meet. Or are you saying I should flake. I don't like that...
 
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napoleon said:
But I should at least tell her we're not gonna meet. Or are you saying I should flake. I don't like that...
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Gah! Flake. But you never should have contacted her in the first place.You have all these dudes telling you not to contact her but you seem intent on doing it. It's your life and you're free to do that if you want to. But those of us that of read the articles and have lived it in life know you are heading down a dead end road.

It seems like you'll have be boot camped before you'll understand. This girl will have to tear you down before you can be built back up.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Your fvcked... actually your not fvcked if you catch my drift...

I've been in this same situation. You might as well move on and dont waste your time.
 
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Paintballguy said:
Your fvcked... actually your not fvcked if you catch my drift...

I've been in this same situation. You might as well move on and dont waste your time.
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I'm mind fuched;)



Oh, when I said flake I meant Stand her up. Since she never let me wait for her, but always said over the phone she won't make it I'll just write a sms:
Listen, I won't make it today....
And never call again.
 
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