Well I met her like 4-5 days ago and got her #. Waited about 2 days to text and than waited another day to text. I'm planning to ask her to hang today, but she has never texted me first, but she responds pretty well to my texts and such.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Girl never texts me first, but responds pretty well
- Thread starter JPlaya
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
irocknike23
Senior Don Juan
if she responds well then that's good. if she was not interested she would respond with 1 word texts or not reply at all
I have the same experience with a former girl. The girl never texted me first.
Not only did she never text me first, but she never initiated anything physical (we were having sex).
Although at the same time, she always responded well, and never rejected me. She just thought it was the man's job to initiate, and the woman's job to accept. Point is, that for this specific girl, it was not a sign of lack of interest.
Not only did she never text me first, but she never initiated anything physical (we were having sex).
Although at the same time, she always responded well, and never rejected me. She just thought it was the man's job to initiate, and the woman's job to accept. Point is, that for this specific girl, it was not a sign of lack of interest.
I had the same experience quite recently with a girl I was seeing. At first I took it as a lack of interest, but she was always keen to meet and would often cancel plans or drive the full distance to meet me. And when we met in person we clicked so well.SMS 48 said:
She even admitted that she could be quite aloof, but didn't mean to come across that way.
She was a great girl, but after a couple of months of this I started to feel it was too much hard work. I was making all the moves, initiating everything and wasn't getting a lot back. In the end I got bored and decided to move on.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I've run into this...google it, you'd be amazed how many women think it's perfectly acceptable to let the guy text first. Excuses range from "he's the guy, so its on him", "if he likes me he'd text first", to "i dont want to bother him"
it does get annoying having to always be the one to initiate contact, but if she is receptive and her responses are timely and engaging and not one word answers every hour, then just keep going.
it does get annoying having to always be the one to initiate contact, but if she is receptive and her responses are timely and engaging and not one word answers every hour, then just keep going.
nightcrawler
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doesn't mean anything
she could just be bored out of her mind and possibly doesn't have many friends etc.
use it to your advantage.
she could just be bored out of her mind and possibly doesn't have many friends etc.
use it to your advantage.
Kenny Powers
Senior Don Juan
yeah dude i can count the number of times on one hand a girl texted me first. After you guys hang out more and or hook up this will probably change. Just know its totally normal and realize that her texting you well after you initiate is a good sign.
Men lead women follow, nuff said
Men lead women follow, nuff said
DonGorgon
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you are moving to slow ... she is a ho get her to you house and F close already.. thats what these females do with the guys that make them do it..JPlaya said: