Well I met her like 4-5 days ago and got her #. Waited about 2 days to text and than waited another day to text. I'm planning to ask her to hang today, but she has never texted me first, but she responds pretty well to my texts and such.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Girl never texts me first, but responds pretty well
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
irocknike23
Senior Don Juan
if she responds well then that's good. if she was not interested she would respond with 1 word texts or not reply at all
I have the same experience with a former girl. The girl never texted me first.
Not only did she never text me first, but she never initiated anything physical (we were having sex).
Although at the same time, she always responded well, and never rejected me. She just thought it was the man's job to initiate, and the woman's job to accept. Point is, that for this specific girl, it was not a sign of lack of interest.
Not only did she never text me first, but she never initiated anything physical (we were having sex).
Although at the same time, she always responded well, and never rejected me. She just thought it was the man's job to initiate, and the woman's job to accept. Point is, that for this specific girl, it was not a sign of lack of interest.
I had the same experience quite recently with a girl I was seeing. At first I took it as a lack of interest, but she was always keen to meet and would often cancel plans or drive the full distance to meet me. And when we met in person we clicked so well.SMS 48 said:
She even admitted that she could be quite aloof, but didn't mean to come across that way.
She was a great girl, but after a couple of months of this I started to feel it was too much hard work. I was making all the moves, initiating everything and wasn't getting a lot back. In the end I got bored and decided to move on.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I've run into this...google it, you'd be amazed how many women think it's perfectly acceptable to let the guy text first. Excuses range from "he's the guy, so its on him", "if he likes me he'd text first", to "i dont want to bother him"
it does get annoying having to always be the one to initiate contact, but if she is receptive and her responses are timely and engaging and not one word answers every hour, then just keep going.
it does get annoying having to always be the one to initiate contact, but if she is receptive and her responses are timely and engaging and not one word answers every hour, then just keep going.
nightcrawler
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doesn't mean anything
she could just be bored out of her mind and possibly doesn't have many friends etc.
use it to your advantage.
she could just be bored out of her mind and possibly doesn't have many friends etc.
use it to your advantage.
Kenny Powers
Senior Don Juan
yeah dude i can count the number of times on one hand a girl texted me first. After you guys hang out more and or hook up this will probably change. Just know its totally normal and realize that her texting you well after you initiate is a good sign.
Men lead women follow, nuff said
Men lead women follow, nuff said
DonGorgon
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you are moving to slow ... she is a ho get her to you house and F close already.. thats what these females do with the guys that make them do it..JPlaya said: