"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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girl moving too fast

topher

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Ok so I've seen this girl 2 times in the last week now somehow I booked myself two more dates in a row, saturday and sunday, dont ask.

This girl seems nice for the most part, we really "click" together and have had a nice makeout session. So she is really into me and all that but she seems like shes getting into relationship mode already.

I don't want to settle with one chick right away but I still want to date this one girl.

So my question is by me telling her that we are moving too fast is that going to hurt her somehow or degrade her IL in me at all or will it up it? of course i realize every girl is going to be different, Im pretty sure someone else went through this so Im sure you could tell me what happened in your situation.

Oh yeah I have tried to search for this but the lack of phrase searching on the forum makes wading through articles kinda tiresome.

Thanks in advance.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Joe The Homophobe

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Originally posted by topher

I don't want to settle with one chick right away but I still want to date this one girl.
So what is stopping you my friend? why don't you have more than one girlfriend? you can always go out with 2 or more girls at the same time as long as they don't know about it. You ain't married to them you have no obligation to any woman.
 

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Re: Re: girl moving too fast

Originally posted by Joe The Homophobe
So what is stopping you my friend? why don't you have more than one girlfriend? you can always go out with 2 or more girls at the same time as long as they don't know about it. You ain't married to them you have no obligation to any woman.
Nobody has any obligation at all until you both agree to be exclusive. Until then it is no hold barred.
 

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let me tell you something about things that go to well

there's usally always a hitch, if something seems to good to be true, sometimes it normally is.

i'm not saying that's the case here, but it takes a little bit of time to click with a girl, granted sometimes you hit it off right away it happens, rarely but that's not what i'm talking about i'm talking about if you hit it off right away and things seem to be progressing at a light speed pace, something is up
 

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Originally posted by
Joe The Homophobe

So what is stopping you my friend? why don't you have more than one girlfriend? you can always go out with 2 or more girls at the same time as long as they don't know about it. You ain't married to them you have no obligation to any woman.
Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime

Nobody has any obligation at all until you both agree to be exclusive. Until then it is no hold barred.
you're right fellas, as long as I can keep it under wraps I think it'll work. i plan on doing some prowling tomorrow afternoon.

Originally posted by christz

let me tell you something about things that go to well

there's usally always a hitch, if something seems to good to be true, sometimes it normally is.

i'm not saying that's the case here, but it takes a little bit of time to click with a girl, granted sometimes you hit it off right away it happens, rarely but that's not what i'm talking about i'm talking about if you hit it off right away and things seem to be progressing at a light speed pace, something is up
Yeah, i didnt cold approach this one girl, she works at a place that I frequent so she sees me around 3 times a week and we've talked here and there for the past 3 months, only recently I decided to let her pursue me. I figure the rapport I've built with her just from the small talk has led to her sky high interest, who knows?!?!

either way tonight she said to me "oh no what am I getting myself into, after 3 outings i still dont get you, your such a challenge" i just kinda laughed and said yep thats me. all i know is im doing something right.

thanks for your feedback it opened my eyes.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by topher
you're right fellas, as long as I can keep it under wraps I think it'll work. i plan on doing some prowling tomorrow afternoon.
It is okay to date as many women as you want as long as you aren't in an exclusive relationship with any of them. But if one of them asks if you are seeing other women, you would be a more moral man by answering them honestly.

Maximus_Decimus
 

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Originally posted by Maximus_Decimus
It is okay to date as many women as you want as long as you aren't in an exclusive relationship with any of them. But if one of them asks if you are seeing other women, you would be a more moral man by answering them honestly.

Maximus_Decimus
i agree, honesty is the best policy, i don't lie about anything, i just don't volunteer the info, but if she asks specifically i will anwser honestly.
 
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