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Girl loves the person Iam, she just isnt sure if she wants to be with me...

gimmeyofonenumba

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We've been dating a few mos. She was dodgy for a day or two then she calls telling me that she is at a fork in the road and is not sure if she wants to continue dating further and risk breaking hearts if it doesn't work out, which us ironic because I have been feeling the same way as well, especially since a new woman entered the picture, and this girl has been initiating contact and texting constantly. I have stayed focused on my gf, and only hangout with her, but the mind does wander. However at the same time my gf adores the person Iam, my qualities, work, affection and intimacy. We are both strong Christians, and she feels she may not be spiritually good enough for me. I proposed we take a few days off, don't speak to each other, or anyone else and reconsider our position. I would like to be with her, but I'm terrified of going further and realizing i wasted my time. I also feel offended and mistreated that she would think to flee then situation rather than work on it or work on herself. I have to call her soon as our few days of refocusing are up. Need some serious advice. My plan is to be very upfront and tell her what I'm looking for and if she wants to fit that role I'd love to work with her, if not, I'll find someone else.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

VladPatton

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Choose the better relationship. Always. It's not worth living in denial and misery.
 

Purefilth

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she calls telling me that she is at a fork in the road and is not sure if she wants to continue dating further and risk breaking hearts if it doesn't work out
NEXT.

She doesnt want you. If she did, the future wouldnt matter - it wouldnt even pop into her head - women live in the PRESENT - and right now, she aint feeling it - NOT "the future"
 

SgtSplacker

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If you just tell her what you want like that it's not going to go across well. I'd just tell her what i'm looking for and let her know that I don't think we are good for each other and cut her off. The loss she realizes will make her like you more and if she comes back you will be in a better position. What i'd do at least..
 

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Too many mixed ass signals. Didn't I just f**kin' cover this? Dammit, drop her ass before she drops you! Women who are interested in you won't confuse you!

Case closed. Get out of my court.
 
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