"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Girl loves the person Iam, she just isnt sure if she wants to be with me...

gimmeyofonenumba

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We've been dating a few mos. She was dodgy for a day or two then she calls telling me that she is at a fork in the road and is not sure if she wants to continue dating further and risk breaking hearts if it doesn't work out, which us ironic because I have been feeling the same way as well, especially since a new woman entered the picture, and this girl has been initiating contact and texting constantly. I have stayed focused on my gf, and only hangout with her, but the mind does wander. However at the same time my gf adores the person Iam, my qualities, work, affection and intimacy. We are both strong Christians, and she feels she may not be spiritually good enough for me. I proposed we take a few days off, don't speak to each other, or anyone else and reconsider our position. I would like to be with her, but I'm terrified of going further and realizing i wasted my time. I also feel offended and mistreated that she would think to flee then situation rather than work on it or work on herself. I have to call her soon as our few days of refocusing are up. Need some serious advice. My plan is to be very upfront and tell her what I'm looking for and if she wants to fit that role I'd love to work with her, if not, I'll find someone else.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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VladPatton

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Choose the better relationship. Always. It's not worth living in denial and misery.
 

Purefilth

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she calls telling me that she is at a fork in the road and is not sure if she wants to continue dating further and risk breaking hearts if it doesn't work out
NEXT.

She doesnt want you. If she did, the future wouldnt matter - it wouldnt even pop into her head - women live in the PRESENT - and right now, she aint feeling it - NOT "the future"
 

SgtSplacker

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If you just tell her what you want like that it's not going to go across well. I'd just tell her what i'm looking for and let her know that I don't think we are good for each other and cut her off. The loss she realizes will make her like you more and if she comes back you will be in a better position. What i'd do at least..
 

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Too many mixed ass signals. Didn't I just f**kin' cover this? Dammit, drop her ass before she drops you! Women who are interested in you won't confuse you!

Case closed. Get out of my court.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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