"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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Girl looking me straight in the eyes...

rgeere

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There was a rather petite finely shaped blonded sitting a few tables away from me during dinner tonight in my college cafeteria. She insisted in looking into my eyes everytime I looked in her direction and I would only stop looking her in the eyes when she would tilt her head down. She would do it every time she saw that I looked in her direction, just straight in the eyes...

Well, she didn't have a very big smile on her face, so I am wondering if she thinks I look funny or is a psycho or something, or maybe she was curious about me...

What do you guys think?
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Vigilante7

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I think you need to get a gun and kill yourself???

She is confident, whoopty fuking doo?!
 

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Well

So, she kept steady eye contact with you from a distance. What does this mean?

It means you should have approached, given that would take some balls because she probably was with friends. Too late now. When in doubt, act. If you don't act, you'll be left dumbfounded and you won't have the confidence the next time as well. Just go over to her table and introduce yourself. I can't imagine a person responding rudely to that, no matter their interest in you.

Where she wasn't smiling it probably didn't mean much. She most likely was bored and found someone she was curious about. Could mean a lot of things though, only way to find out is investigate further. I hope your uninterrupted dinner was better than a conversation with her, because that's all you had to lose.
 

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In that situation I would have probably waved at her or approached her to validate the situation.
She could be nearsighted or looking slightly away from you and you might not realize it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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rgeere

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Originally posted by NatureGuy
In that situation I would have probably waved at her or approached her to validate the situation.
She could be nearsighted or looking slightly away from you and you might not realize it.
I don't think she is nearsighted unless she always wears contacts.

No, she was looking me directly in the eyes. She would stare a little when I wasn't looking, and then I would look at her and she would just stare at me in the eyes until she looked down submissively. I would turn my head and she would be back to stareing, and when I looked back at her she would be looking right in my eyes again for a signifigant amount of time and then she would look down, again...
 
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I think since she instigated it, she was waiting to see if you thought she was cute. You should have smiled if you liked her, and then it sounds as if you would have got a smile back. Why not say hi to her next time your paths cross?
 

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Forget about speculating about what she is thinking, it's a waste of time. The only way to know (if even somewhat) is to find out from her.

If you are lucky enough to find yourself in the same situation again, consider doing this; when you catch her staring, take your tray (while keeping you eye contact with her), walk over to her table and sit directly across from her. While still holding your gaze with hers, wait a few minutes and say "So tell me (dramatic pause) what do you see?"

With that, you will find out her interest level or at least if she is a flake. :p
 

rgeere

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
If you are lucky enough to find yourself in the same situation again, consider doing this; when you catch her staring, take your tray (while keeping you eye contact with her), walk over to her table and sit directly across from her. While still holding your gaze with hers, wait a few minutes and say "So tell me (dramatic pause) what do you see?"
Lol, classic... Consider that done... In my sort of way, though.

You know, I still have to be me just like new and improved...
 

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Originally posted by Vigilante7
I think you need to get a gun and kill yourself.

She is confident, whoopty fuking doo?!
LOL, I spew milk all over my computer reading that.

Go get her tiger!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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