Girl liked me and than later on told me she wasn't ready for a relationship

[Ringleader41]

Known this girl for like 3 months. She was obsessed with me and showed clear signs of interest and all that other whiz. All of a sudden she started acting differently, but she would still go on dates and we would still fool around. Eventually I started asking good sources and they told me she liked me, but she wasn't ready for a relationship or some bullshvt like that. WTF women don't know what the fuq they want. She told me that she still wanted to be friends and that she was sorry and I told her I have enough friends and walked away. As a result, I'm going NC. I feel like ass right now though

 

[BrownBear]

You are too cruel. It will hurt her feelings.
Bring her flowers and kneel in front of her saying you are sorry. :flowers:

 

[Uncharted]

Sounds like it's time to next her, pick yourself up, and start dating other chicks. At minimum I would no contact her to see if she's really interested or not.

 

[Ringleader41]

Sounds like it's time to next her, pick yourself up, and start dating other chicks. At minimum I would no contact her to see if she's really interested or not.

Like it's bullshvt because she kept begging my friends to hook me up with her, and I gave in and gave her a chance. She's probably going to try and make a third appearance.

 

[old_skoolr]

She likes you, but she doesnt want you to be her bf, maybe she just wants to **** you?

 

[zinc4]

Did u pursue a relationship with her? If so, that is your problem..make them always pursue by using them for sex and hanging only until they prove themselves worthy.

 

[49au]

There's also the possibility that she's sh!t testing you.

Most of the girls I fvck and/or date say that they don't want a relationship, they're "emotionally unavailable", or some similar nonsense.

The proper response is to say "that's perfect, me either" and keep fvcking her, and having with with her. Eventually they start to crack and ask you for the commitment. She wants to feel like she's won something valuable.

It's standard.


Some girls are a little more passive and get frustrated after you've fvcked them for a while with no discussion of commitment, the "l" word, or calling them your "girlfriend." They feel that it's your place to put a label on it. I dated a very conservative, HOT 25yo (natural beauty) last year and I think I hit this wall with her. I wouldn't budge, neither would she. They will back off and if you don't chase them or offer them the commitment, they have enough leverage that they can keep their distance from you.


So it could be that, or a sh!t test, or as PairPlusRoyalFlush suggested, there's a guy who has captured her interest more.

 

[VladPatton]

You always gotta be able to let them walk if you don't like what's going on. The more you give in to something you're not comfortable with, the worse things will get. You did the right thing. You dodged a bullet.

 

[Megaman XIV]

If you get that, she's doesn't want a relationship with YOU. There's a better man in the picture. Sorry.

Get equipped.

 

[Ringleader41]

I don't think there's another guy, but still **** her. NC time baby.

 

[Jitterbug]

Had that, I ignored it, banged her and the morning after, I got a relationship request sent via Facebook lol. Then it was my turn to tell her we should keep it a secret for now and surprise our friends later (yeah right) lolololozzzzz

 

[Ringleader41]

was your situation just like mine pretty much

 

[zinc4]

you still haven't told us the details...have any of you before ever hinted at a relationship and who contacts who the most and stuff like that....basically have you felt like you had a higher IL than her before this happened????try and be objective here...maybe she felt like you were pushing for the relationship...women think they are physchic on stuff liek this and actually their intuition on such things is pretty good more times than not..

It could be you offered no challenge or she just met someone who she is more attracted to and/or is more challenging than you...or maybe you are not that good in the sack or intimate enough...could be all sorts of things..we need details to know..

Just from reading your OP...i get the feeling that you hinted toward a relationship more than her and she became bored...

 

[SirFratserlot]

I was probably less of a challenge most likely, but she had more interest than me at first. It really doesnt matter now. If she wants to come back than she can make effort too.

 

[zinc4]

it matters because it is a learning experience...never let your IL go above her's..ESPECIALLY in the beginning early stages....if your IL is too high at least try to hide it....i can understand being over confident because of her acting obsessed when she first met you...but women are fickle and you can't let your IL slip above her's....women and people in general need a challenge to feel satisfied...

NC this one immediately....then shut her down ruthlessly when she contacts again to see if she can still pull your strings...and she most likely will even if she has a new guy just to see if she still has power over you...

 

[SirFratserlot]

Ya I understand. I feel like shell try to make a third appearance and ill know wat to do now.

 

[luber873]

Exact same thing just happened to be bro. Intense interest from the girl, then hot/cold, sex, "needing space". I'd next and be done with it.

 

[SirFratserlot]

I feel like **** right now. Same shvt happened to me

 

[luber873]

Why do you feel like ****? You shouldn't have to play mind games if it was meant to work out. She liked you, but not enough to call you her bf. She's over it and you should be too.

 

[bigneil]

The only mistake was expecting a relationship.

Relationships come after sex, not before.