Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Girl keeps calling back.

00Kevin

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There is a chick I know who I've nexted that calls me up every few months. I've known her for over 6 years now. I went out with her for a bit and then quickly became very distant.

She usually calls me up a few days after she breaks up with her guy or something happens to her. Right away she attempts to use me as an emotional tampon. She never calls me during my birthday or anything. So wtf is is her problem?

I answered the phone tonight and when I heard her voice I said, "oh no not you. "

Right away she started talking about her recent break up. Part of me just wanted to tell her off and another part of me thought it would be best to listen and be nice.

After a long conversation with her mostly talking and me rejecting her I got off the phone pissed off.

She said she would call back in a week. As always, I really don't care if she does or not. I'm strongly considering telling her off next time.

I'm just going to tell her not to call me anymore. I'm just going to outright tell her not to call me unless she wants to f-uck!

Anyone think that is best solution? It is not like she calls all the time. Just once every 3 months or so. And I don't EVER call her.

I think i need to get pissed off at this chick for her bulls-hit.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ThunderMaverick

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You have no right to be treated as an emotional tampon. Don't answer her calls or give her selfish ultamatums. That should keep her from calling. YOU are NOT a CONVENIENCE!
 

00Kevin

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Originally posted by Gold Heart
Don't pick up next time. It's simple, and it saves your breath.
that can work but I won't always filter the call out. I might just pick it up without thinking first.

Why should I even have to hear her phone call?
 

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who cares? one call every 3 months? you poor thing. call your phone company and have them block the number.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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