"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Girl keeps calling back.

00Kevin

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There is a chick I know who I've nexted that calls me up every few months. I've known her for over 6 years now. I went out with her for a bit and then quickly became very distant.

She usually calls me up a few days after she breaks up with her guy or something happens to her. Right away she attempts to use me as an emotional tampon. She never calls me during my birthday or anything. So wtf is is her problem?

I answered the phone tonight and when I heard her voice I said, "oh no not you. "

Right away she started talking about her recent break up. Part of me just wanted to tell her off and another part of me thought it would be best to listen and be nice.

After a long conversation with her mostly talking and me rejecting her I got off the phone pissed off.

She said she would call back in a week. As always, I really don't care if she does or not. I'm strongly considering telling her off next time.

I'm just going to tell her not to call me anymore. I'm just going to outright tell her not to call me unless she wants to f-uck!

Anyone think that is best solution? It is not like she calls all the time. Just once every 3 months or so. And I don't EVER call her.

I think i need to get pissed off at this chick for her bulls-hit.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ThunderMaverick

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You have no right to be treated as an emotional tampon. Don't answer her calls or give her selfish ultamatums. That should keep her from calling. YOU are NOT a CONVENIENCE!
 

00Kevin

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Originally posted by Gold Heart
Don't pick up next time. It's simple, and it saves your breath.
that can work but I won't always filter the call out. I might just pick it up without thinking first.

Why should I even have to hear her phone call?
 

cffrmw

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who cares? one call every 3 months? you poor thing. call your phone company and have them block the number.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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