Was planning on asking a girl out, but that backfired a lot. I was going to add some fluff before asking, so I started out with a casual hey what's up. The conversation was going well too. She was replying with good responses and within 5 minutes of my responses. I send her a text which I didn't was bad and never got a response. It has been 8 hours since lol. First, I know the girl is interested. Was going to ask her out after her response, but I guess that is not happening.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Girl just stops responding in mid conversation
- Thread starter JPlaya
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Mike32ct
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Video games give you three or more lives before you have to hit reset and start the game over.
Unfortunately, girls only give you one.
What I'm trying to say is that unless a girl's interest level is SUPER high, they aren't forgiving. The slightest thing can turn them off and cause it to be game over with them.
Hit the reset button by finding another girl.
You tried. Don't sweat it man.
Unfortunately, girls only give you one.
What I'm trying to say is that unless a girl's interest level is SUPER high, they aren't forgiving. The slightest thing can turn them off and cause it to be game over with them.
Hit the reset button by finding another girl.
You tried. Don't sweat it man.
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Judge nismo will quote a video game I enjoy when I'm not in the courtroom and solve this whole case:Mike32ct said:
Thank you JPlaya (for trying)! :woo:
But your princess is in another castle! (You tried and failed, I'm not interested in you, now leave me alone!)
You are guilty of failure to spin plates. The fine is 8 hours of cold time alone, 2 blue balls, and a trip to Justafriend Lake, Minnesota.
Understanding that this girl just isn't that into you, moving on, and spinning more plates is the best move right now that is for you. That's my ruling.
Case closed.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She doesn't have to have high interest to give you another shot, but it can take weeks or months for things to reset. Toss her onto the backburner and show some other chicks a good time so she can see what she's missing out on. Test the waters later and see if things have improved, what have you got to lose other than never finding out?Mike32ct said:
Some guys around here are too quick to dismiss a chick because she didn't have high interest right that moment. A woman's interest tends to be somewhat cyclical, it might just not have been a good time and you'll have better luck a short while down the road.