"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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girl just broke up with bf

playerone

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I known this girl for almost a year now. We've been going out on and off. I was doing ****y & funny on her alot, and she liked it. We were going out on dates and after each one ended, she would text me immediately. She laughs alot when she's with me. All this happened while she was still with her boyfriend of 3 months, but they don't meet up anymore, as that guy is on very good terms with another girl. So she's pretty disappointed in him.

Finally, they broke up recently. And i didn't talk to her or anything for 1 week after their breakup. I returned after that, talked to her as usual, but i didn't get the same responses anymore. She's replying with a few word answers. Before that, we would be busting each other up alot.

I couldn't take it anymore, so she came online just now and i started talking to her, saying.. "busy girl", etc. Then she replied uninterested again. I asked her how things were going with the guy, and she lied to me and said okay. Then i said "i know you too well, kelly".. "you broke up, get over it". I told her i didn't like the person i'm talking to right now, and that the breakup is affecting the way we talk. She replied with a little remorse and asked if it is affecting our relationship. I said yes, and i told her to call me tonight and we'll talk about it. She told me to call her instead. I said kk. Then she went to work.

Did i do the right thing by listing out my unhappiness? I mean, will it affect the relationship even more? How do i carry on from here? I have a good few hours away from talking to her on the phone.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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jeffthechef

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if you think you came off as needy or really emotional bout your guy's relationshipp..you went too far

but dont look back..just come back as a fun happy guy...dont mention her ex anymore

ask her to hang..hang out make it fun and she'll want more

'girls just want to have fun' lmao..but it's true
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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Stop all of that right now before you become the emotional tampon. Just talk and kid around with her as you were. She is just depressed or whatever from her break up. She will come around.
 

eaglez1177

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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
Stop all of that right now before you become the emotional tampon. Just talk and kid around with her as you were. She is just depressed or whatever from her break up. She will come around.
Great advice right there. Just try to cheer her up and AVOID talking about her ex. (trust me girls do NOT like talking about ex's).
 
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