"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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girl just broke up with bf

playerone

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I known this girl for almost a year now. We've been going out on and off. I was doing ****y & funny on her alot, and she liked it. We were going out on dates and after each one ended, she would text me immediately. She laughs alot when she's with me. All this happened while she was still with her boyfriend of 3 months, but they don't meet up anymore, as that guy is on very good terms with another girl. So she's pretty disappointed in him.

Finally, they broke up recently. And i didn't talk to her or anything for 1 week after their breakup. I returned after that, talked to her as usual, but i didn't get the same responses anymore. She's replying with a few word answers. Before that, we would be busting each other up alot.

I couldn't take it anymore, so she came online just now and i started talking to her, saying.. "busy girl", etc. Then she replied uninterested again. I asked her how things were going with the guy, and she lied to me and said okay. Then i said "i know you too well, kelly".. "you broke up, get over it". I told her i didn't like the person i'm talking to right now, and that the breakup is affecting the way we talk. She replied with a little remorse and asked if it is affecting our relationship. I said yes, and i told her to call me tonight and we'll talk about it. She told me to call her instead. I said kk. Then she went to work.

Did i do the right thing by listing out my unhappiness? I mean, will it affect the relationship even more? How do i carry on from here? I have a good few hours away from talking to her on the phone.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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jeffthechef

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if you think you came off as needy or really emotional bout your guy's relationshipp..you went too far

but dont look back..just come back as a fun happy guy...dont mention her ex anymore

ask her to hang..hang out make it fun and she'll want more

'girls just want to have fun' lmao..but it's true
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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Stop all of that right now before you become the emotional tampon. Just talk and kid around with her as you were. She is just depressed or whatever from her break up. She will come around.
 

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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
Stop all of that right now before you become the emotional tampon. Just talk and kid around with her as you were. She is just depressed or whatever from her break up. She will come around.
Great advice right there. Just try to cheer her up and AVOID talking about her ex. (trust me girls do NOT like talking about ex's).
 
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