"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl is quick to put me into friendzone

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Theres this girl I know, who I Like and she has A LOT of guy friends and only like 2 friends that are girls. I think she thinks me as a friend, but I want to be able to do something to get her out of that, all guys are friends mind state. any help?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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This raises a good question: What does a girl's type of friends say about her?

Like, if they're all male vs all female? Single vs married? Etc?

I'm guessing if they're all male, she enjoys using her looks to manipulate men as tools. She's also probably quite attractive, which is why other women don't trust her.
 

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The reason may be you are too available just all her other guy friends. You want to stand out so start running really good attraction game and build attraction.

And o yea remember that IT'S ALWAYS ON. So even if it feels like you are in the friendzone, if you have good attraction game you can turn that around. So start so push pull, ****y and funny, good storytelling and then throw in a jealous plotline. Jealous plotlines really amplify attraction especially when you feel she's into you but not as much as she could or should be.

IT'S ALWAYS ON.

Love,
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If she has a LOT of guy friends and just a few girl friends, this is a huge indication that she is an attention wh0re. Watch her behavior with these other guy friends. She keeps them around by dressing suggestively, flirting with them, might even tease them by "considering" them and keeping them in limbo. She will use them for rides, free food, gifts, etc. This type of female is usually insecure and has an addiction to male validation. These girls will probably never date out of her pool of guy friends, as this could jeapordize her on-demand male attention machine. All girls do this to some extent, but the attention wh0re is an especially vicious breed. She will deny her behavior and act innocent. Don't be fooled.

I suggest you call her out on her little game and then cut off communication.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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hi2u said:
If she has a LOT of guy friends and just a few girl friends, this is a huge indication that she is an attention *****. Watch her behavior with these other guy friends. She keeps them around by dressing suggestively, flirting with them, might even tease them by "considering" them and keeping them in limbo. This type of female is usually insecure and has an addiction to male validation. These girls will probably never date out of her pool of guy friends, as this could jeapordize her on-demand male attention machine.
You are soooo right! BINGO! Attention wh0re who NEEDS constant male validation. Often due to an absentee daddy and sense of abandonment. This type of girl will typically have a high partner count and cheats a lot because she obsessively seeks out male attention for her looks like a crackhead seeks rocks.

So, what can such a girl do to resolve her missing daddy issues here?

And, what about a girl with a lot of female friends? What does that tell us? "Normal?"
 

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High partner count and cheating is just a slvt :) Those are easy. Attention *****s don't give up the pvssy. They're in it for the attention and free stuff.
 

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hi2u said:
High partner count and cheating is just a slvt :) Those are easy. Attention *****s don't give up the pvssy. They're in it for the attention and free stuff.
Are you kidding me? I believe that so-called "sluts" are actually the biggest attention wh0res!

Although I agree that your textbook attention wh0re is no where NEAR as easy as she will lead you on as. Many of them are c0ckteasing blueball queens. On the other hand, they're not nuns, either..
 

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Oh yes, sluts are attention wh0res taken to an extreme. An attention wh0re is just a slut waiting to happen. They have dropped their ASD after eventually they give it up to multiple partners and it's worn down. Without ASD, an attention wh0re will rapidly develop more and more partners as their unquenchable desire for male validation takes total control of their life. It's kind of sad.
 

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but shes not a slut! she doesnt act flirty around any of her guy friends really. I have tried C+F, neg hits etc. but she just thinks im doing it in a frendly way
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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wayword said:
This raises a good question: What does a girl's type of friends say about her?

Like, if they're all male vs all female? Single vs married? Etc?

I'm guessing if they're all male, she enjoys using her looks to manipulate men as tools. She's also probably quite attractive, which is why other women don't trust her.
nah. i know alot of tomboyish girls who have a bunch of best guy friends. theyre total cross legs and are nasty.

probably lesbians actually.
 

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she was like, i like guys who are sexy, but i dont feel any sexyness coming form you or some bull****
 

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I say go for the kino..

like, say:

hey remember you said you didnt feel any sexyness comming? I think you have the same problem.. want me to make you feel sexy? (in a joking way) and then go for a massage or something

^ is that completely stupid?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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WTF?

Attention *****s because she hangs out with alot of men and no girls. I know alot of girl friends who hangs out with alot of guys and don't hang with no girls, and they do not act like no attention *****. They chill and get joked on just like all the other guys, if were playing around we throw **** at them same as the guys. Just because she is a girl we don't treat her special. I've yet to find her beg for any attention she mainly is quiet unless someone is annoying her or if she is in a conversation with us.

An yall just love calling girls Sluts, why I have no clue, because in the end it seems like those same sluts is what yall are chasing after. A girl is a girl, what yall are calling sluts are girls who are more sexual. So yall can go game some nuns who you can't even have fun with because she would never allow you to maybe finger her in the movie theater or even put your finger in that area.
 

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Be quick to kick her to the curb. Take it from a guy who's walked a mile in your shoes. It ain't worth your time. I spent like a year one time trying to win over a LJBF girl. :down: We'll just leave it at that.
 

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Moving on has no negative side effects, only positive. You get over her, you build social proof by dating and being seen with other girls, and maybe eventually she will realize her mistake in not seeing the prize that you are.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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