"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Girl is on the Phone, You cant Move: How would you React?

dj_phobia

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Imagine This:

You are lying on the bed witha broken leg as you have recently had an accident. Your target who is meeting you for the second time and has indicated a fair bit of interest in you in the your two meetings so far, is by your bedside and gets a phonecall. She takes longer than usual on the phone, talking to her mom.

(You are having to wait, hence you are losing value, but you cant walk away because of the broken leg). What would you do to retain value?

a. Just let her get on with the conversation and pretend you are busy doing something else on your laptop.

b. Be playful with her, while she is talking, for e.g. by touching her hair or hitting her with paper balls.

c. Something else?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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kingsam

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act disintersted and ignore her untill shes off the phone, its kinda rude of her really, she can call her mom back when shes finished...

over here your often not even allowed mobile phones in hospital wards, incase they interfere with medical equipment...?!
 

Alexander

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Girls have a life too , you're not the center of the universe. If you think she talked for too long, maybe her mom had something important to say or maybe if she feels like talking more to her mom than spending time with you, that's cause she's not that interrested.
 

dj_phobia

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Kingsam: Totally agreed.

Alexander: The post clearly states that the girl has shown interest. There are enough IOI's and the fact that she is spendings "Hours" with a guy in his room, who has a broken leg when she could have gone out and done other stuff is a strong indicator of interest. Besides that, the focus here is on handling a situation where a girl is spending too much time on the phone (I should elaborate, I am in an East Asian country at the moment, and this kind of behaviour is quite common in Asia), rather than on whether or not she is interested. I already have the answer to that question (I made out with her today :) )...

Thanks
 

shaunuk

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Lads. . .some people are taking this "alpha" thing too far.

The world revolves around you? How is answering a phone call from her mother when she's with you disrespectful. It's not. And you're not "losing value". You're grossly overanalysing and it's going to be your downfall. End of.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Guoy Darko

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Awkward.

Do whatever you were doing before she came. Pick up your book, ipod or watch tv. Or maybe write on a note you can hold in front of her that you like her to get you a cup of coffee or something. Or start masturbating. No not that one. :rolleyes:
 

dj_phobia

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Shaunuk: You are probably right about me "Overanalysing", but that I guess is a serious "side effect" of the Game. There is absolutely nothing wrong in her answering the call, however, when it turns into long conversation full of general chit-chat, I do think it is slightly disrespectful as I am being made to wait. If I am with someone (Not just girls) and I ever get a call, I would try to keep it to the point.

The reason why I asked the question is, I wanted to make sure, that I use the best possible strategy to ensure:

1. I do not not lose value
2. Give her a subtle hint that this behavious is not acceptable.
 

jonwon

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dj_phobia said:
1. I do not not lose value
2. Give her a subtle hint that this behavious is not acceptable.

You'll lose value by doing number 2.

It's one thing a girl speaking to her mates when she is out on a date with you.

It's another her speaking to her mum whilst she is chilling at your pad and your laid up on the bed, it's not like you have anything else planned but her sitting with you.

You start laying down the law to a new girl over something so trivial, any self respecting women will simply walk.

Yes you are over-analysing the situation, simply do your own thing till she comes back to you.

Now if you where sat in a resturant this is a different story.

If she makes an habbit of doing it, deal with it, on the other hand mothers can be protective, she was probably talking to her mum to re-assure her that she isn't doing anything naughty, last thing you need is a mother co** block.
 

boomerick

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If talking to her mom in the same room is somehow going to turn her interest tide against you than you don't have her interest in the first place. Likewise if you are anilizing every move you and her make with this kind of depth you aren't being confident...... you are paranoid. Operating from a place of fear (lack of confidence) will ultimately turn her off to you more than anything else. Relax, be you, do what you do, maintain a 'dominant' frame....not a "total control of her so nothing can go wrong and hurt me as I'm a fragile little emotional egg shell" kind of frame. P*ssy is just not this important or difficult. Over and Out.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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shaunuk

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Right, exactly what jonwon is saying. . .

Too many guys are houting the odds over tiny little things. "Behavior is not acceptable" - "not losing value" - "disrespectful". Don't make out like anything less than licking your arse is "disrespect" and "unacceptable behavior" - her world doesn't revolve around you :)
 
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