She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
i already said I'm waiting for a 100% clear signal she wants to be asked out. So far nothing has been 100%. I believe if I wait until it's closer to valentines day it'll put pressure on her to do something so she will or will not give better signals.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
This chick is obviously something less than a 5 because this idiot f*ck thinks that has has zero else going on in her life and will have no other men trying to holla at her in the next two months.
I don't understand the hostility. I am following the advice of making the girl chase. Which I believe you have mentioned before numerous time. As for other guys hollaring at her I do not think there are as I have not heard anything. And she is close to a 8 9 or 10. Tall skinny and of european descent. I have picture but I'm not going to post it. Really you guys sound like hypocrites with bad or no advice.
Because you're f*cking up the board with troll bullsh*t.
Chicks don't span two f*cking points on the hot babe 10 point rating scale. spectrum.
And would you know? Are you the creepy, needy, stalker dude in her life? As far as you she might have been getting triple penetrated over the weekend.
Because you don't have a picture.
Nailed it.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That's because she isn't hot, you don't have one, or she doesn't exist.
You were given advice and when you were given said advice, you had nerve enough to ridicule and argue about the advice that members on this board took time out of their lives to give you. The Don Juans are not here to aid and abet your beta male faggotry. If you want people to give you aid and comfort in your b*tchassnees, then go and register at http://www.loveshack.org/ They'll be more than happy to accommodate you.
Dude, nobody cares about this figment of your imagination that you're talking about. As a matter of fact this thread should be locked.
You were given real advice. You were told to ask her out. Instead, you're making excuses and you're waiting for her to take her clothes off in front of you or some 5hit.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.