"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Girl is going to be single soon, I have little time to move in.

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Of all of the girls I talk to and hang out with, there is one that seems to really be my type. If I don't go out with her, then I'll feel like everything I've worked for will be for nothing. I only have four months because of college, and some of that time the other guy will still be around. I'll have to make the switch from friend to girlfriend very fast.

Her boyfriend is moving 3 states away, so that means he will be "out of sight, out of mind," hopefully, for me. If I move in, I think I'll be able to do it.

Here's what's going for me:
1) She was homecoming queen, I was prom king, so we're about equal. I was also a homecoming prince.

2) She asked me to prom last school year.

3) When we hang out its usually always something exciting, unusual, and memorable.

4) She often punches me in the butt.

5) At this past prom, I went with her group, her mom said "here comes the best one" about me, and her mom later kissed me on the face when no one was looking.

It seems that my chances could be very good. Please, someone tell me how to go about turning her from a friend to a girl-friend.

I've never had a girlfriend before and don't know how to ask one to become one. This is why I didn't ask her out before the other guy did.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Im pretty new at this myself but if she's breaking up with him wouldn't you be goin in for a rebound chick. and If thats the case she may use you as a stepping stone to her feeling better. Then drop you because she thinks the grass is greener on the other side.. But it isn't
 

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Think about this really hard.

You're going to be moving away in 4 months? And if she drops this guy for you, you don't think there could be another guy that could sweep her off her feet?

If you're looking to just hit it then by all means go for it. Make her you gf.

But if you want a relationship, and a long distance relationship at that. Then it's not worth the trouble.

What I would do is get in a position where you guys are comfortable. Like your arms around hers. Conversation going great, eyes meet, lean in but not all the way. She leans in, you're good to go, if she turns then sorry buddy try another girl.
 

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DJStudent, you mean lean in for a kiss? Maybe. Is this how you ask a girl to be your girlfriend? I've asked them to dances before, but never girlfriend. If I screw up, how will I handle the embarassment?

We'd just be going to college within the same state, while the other guy would be going three states away to live. I wish I could just forget about her, but she never leaves me alone and when she's not around, I think about her. The personalities of most girls are really boring and I could not keep a conversation going with any of them.
 

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Prom King and no girlfriends or action? Hmmm .. something tells me you're not in America.

If there is natural attraction between you, then it can happen, but if she doesn't find you the least bit attractive in any sort of way, then is very unlikely.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I danced with lots of girls and got a phone number and I think during one of those dances, I felt something that felt like a pubic bone (near the vagina). That was probably dry humping. All kinds of chicks wanted their pictures with me and stuff. The girl-who-I-like's mom kissed me on the cheek.

If I wasn't so picky I wouldn't be here. I notice my friends often get into relationships for about a few weeks or so and then quickly out because they'll take any chick who'd want them.
 

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Dude, dont ask the same question in two forums, its goddamn rude.

ITS HIS ONE ITIS, HE JUST WONT GET OVER HER.
 
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