"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Girl is Feeling Guilty Towards Me. Interesting.

Fela Kuti

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First, sorry if my English is a little confusing :)

My story started around February, when I was dating this cute girl (let's call her Lucy). A month later, a guy who've been purchasing her before me asked her one more time to be his GF (he was rejected before). And she accepted him. This puzzled me because it's clear that she really liked me. I later heard that John said he will move to other country with his dad if he's rejected. Maybe this made her symphatize towards him?

A day later I sent her an e-mail saying thank you for all the memories. The point was actually to remind her about all the nice memories and what a loss it was to lose me. She said she was speechless when she read that e-mail.

I said, forget it, your status doesn't mean that we can't hang out once in a while. I heard there'll be a food festival next week. She said: "Let's go there!". So we went there and had a great time. That's when I really realized that I like her so much, and she's thinking the same too, judging by her body language and such.

So weeks gone by and we still communicate sometimes via text msg, IM, and letters, but we never met eachother. At this point I heard from friends that she looks like she have a lot of problems on his mind and she often cries at night. And her relationship with the BF wasn't too happy. I wonder if it's because the realization that we like each other but can't be together. Because I think like that all days.

So I arrange a get together because I know we miss each other a lot. That week, we went out twice. Once again, we had a great time. After that, I also told her that his BF better not know about this because I don't want to make him sad. She agreed.

A week gone by, and for the whole week, it seems that we only like each other more. We texted often. Maybe some of you think that text messaging is bad, but so far it doesn't hurt my game.

Now here comes the interesting part. Two days ago, I received a message from an unknown number. It goes like this:

"Good evening, is this Fela Kuti? I'm feeling really guilty towards you. I think I've done a mistake that will make a big impact to you. Would you forgive me? Well, what can I do. Maybe you will always linger on my mind for the rest of my life. Haha. You know what, I suffer from stress! Oh well, I think I better sleep to help reducing this guilty feeling. But before that, I'm gonna watch Spacetoon first. I heard there's a good program at 8."

That last sentence is a hint that it was her because the day before I told her about this Spacetoon program. Then I replied like this: (still "in character")

"Well, just pray to God that you will be shown the solution. Now sleep if you want to. Good night. I miss you too. Hahaha."

The morning after, I felt that my reply was not serious enough. I should've picked up on her hints. So I sent her a text, to her real number this time, and being the real me.

"Good morning, Lucy. I hope your feeling is as bright as this morning's sunshine. Don't stress yrself too much, alright? I know why you're feeling guilty. But you've made your decision. Regreting it for too long won't do any good. Want to talk? Maybe it'll make u feel better."

She replied:
"Good morning! How do you know it was me? If I didn't give you any clue, would you knew? Hehe."

Me:
"Because I'm a detective. But too bad my detective skill isn't good enough to get 100% of what you meant last night. I think I need an explanation straight from the person."

Her:
"Alright, I'll explain to you. Wait for the 'premiere'. Hahaha."

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So, what do you think? Did I handle this right? What is her reason for that mysterious text message? What should I do next? Thanks!
 

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Nighthawk

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I'm hearing 'I am bored messing you around now but want to ease my conscience and keep you friendly. But you're not getting any p*ssy, ok?'

What you should do is move on. What you should've done is f*ck her real good.
 

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Why should I move on if there's still something between us. It's not over yet. Okay, let's just wait what her explanation will be.
 

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Good evening, is this Fela Kuti? I'm feeling really guilty towards you. I think I've done a mistake that will make a big impact to you. Would you forgive me? Well, what can I do. Maybe you will always linger on my mind for the rest of my life. Haha. You know what, I suffer from stress!
It says it in the text.. she played you. That's why she's feeling guilty. And now you're just fooling yourself.
you'll see in due time my friend, they just like to keep you around like a little puppy to make em selves feel good.

Do whatever you want, but learn something from it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Fela Kuti

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but i'm the one she really loves. and she accepted that guy just out of pity. and...

okay okay, i'll stop. thanks for the advice. maybe i'll update the situation once she finally tell her story.

btw, imo you can't really say that she plays me. because it's her who suffers from stress and cries all night thinking about me. while I just go with the flow.
 
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Fela Kuti

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Guys, she finally broke up with his bf yesterday. What should I do now? Make a move or just wait for her to act first? Btw, she told my friends that she likes me. And my friends told her I like her too. Damn, those monkeys.

Thanks.
 

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dude are you punjabi ..

what does fela stand for again ?
 

Fela Kuti

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nope, that's not my real name. it's taken from a nigerian jazz musician. i'm from indonesia myself.

now, do you think that if a girl that likes me knew from other people that i like her, would it hurt my game a bit?
 

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Dude...you're analyzing everything. Just let it go. You want the girl? Ask her out. You like a girl? Make a move.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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