"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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xenten

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Hi there. I am kind of seeing this girl right now. We have been on 2 dates: coffee and tennis. I am having trouble telling whether or not she likes me. Here's a little of our conversation today:

Mooney:Hey, what are you doing tonight?
HB: blah blah, friends cooking dinner, blah blah
Mooney: I see...tell you what. I'm watching Office Space tonight at 8:30 and you should join me.
HB: I'll see.

Every other date she responded the same way so I didn't think much of that. We had the same class and after it was over she called me and said, "Wait up, we(her roomates) are having friends over tonight to watch a movie and dinner. You should come join." I've been doing plenty of kino, but haven't kissed her yet. I've never been good in big social situations so I will have to kick it up a notch tonight.

I am thinking she likes me, am or wrong or on the spot? Having known what I told.

-Mooney
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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ARrocket

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Well there is nothing here that would say she isn't interested, so if you think she is, she probably is.
 

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Assume the sale and escalate the kino. Kick it up several notches.

Joking aside, sounds like you might have 50/50. Assume that she like you and act according. If she does, great! If she doesn't, at least you will know and invest your time elsewhere.
 

xenten

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Report from tonight:
We hung out with her and 4 of her friends. They cooked dinner and we watched 2 movies. We had a good time, joked around with her, made her laugh. I escalated kino a lot. When she walked me out I was going to kiss her but she never looked up at me. I tried the kiss test but it didn't work out as planned. I ended up just kissing her forehead. I couldn't tell if she was smiling because she just kept looking down at the ground; she is very confusing. I'm still coming out of my AFCness.
 

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I totally agree with LB...he beat me to the punch. Assume the sale!!

On another note, I noticed a few things from what you said. I know how girls can be, but you have to listen when they're talking about "blah, blah, blah"...maybe there was something in that blah that you could have picked up on. BUT at the same time, it's nice to know that you're not putting her on too much of a pedestal and drooling over every word.

Keep playing it indifferent...you'll do fine.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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