girl im flirting with sees me with another girl.

[DJ Alejandro]

hey guys, im in quite a situation here that's new to me. im sure some of you have gone through this but i havent so hear me out.

i was walking along the mall with a girl ive been dating for quite some time now and then as we were passing through this restaurant, a group of schoolmates were hanging out and eating.

i didnt really know them but then they suddenly look and point at me. i didnt really mind since the other half of their group was blocked by a post so i couldnt see who else was there. [apparently, word got around that i liked this particular girl and they were her friends.]

we then proceded along and as we did, i saw the girl i was flirting with and she was looking at us like this -->

i just wanna meet this girl cuz she seems cOol and might be a potential gf or fling at least. after her seeing me with this girl, i dunno what to do next.

for the conservative, im still in the process of looking for a gf.

 

[Hollowpoint]

pretend like it's no big deal

 

[alakazam]

I wouldn't worry about it at all....you just showed her that she's not your only option

 

[DJ Alejandro]

i would but i wouldnt know how to respond if she'd ask me about it the next time.

what if she'd make a big deal out of it? by her facial expression, it seems like she is.

 

[backbreaker]

dude, that's what you WANT to happen, that's not a problem.

Now she knows other woman want you, which makes you more deseriable

 

[Player_Supreme]

this is where you earn your player card. pimp your way outta it. your a man so figure this shyt out.


Act like it ain't no big deal and shyt. tell her she is a friend and was taking you out...this will program her mind that if she wants to see you she gotta pay for shyt.

Or if your one of those nice guy symps then tell her she was just a friend whom you were taking out..so that you can pay for all of your future dates with the new one.

 

[Vini Vidi Vici]

With all due respect pal, this is one of the most stupid questions I've read here, and I`ve read a lot.

Something like this happened to me... rather than happening to me, I made it happen.

I moved to a new city three months ago to go to college. My girlfriend, she stayed. It's kind of a long distance relationship and I don't know if it's going anywhere, so I started to DJ some girls here. Well, part of my game was to bring my girlfriend here for some days and show her to everybody. She's a 9, I guess the girl that was with you at the mall was kind of pretty too, pretty enough for the other girl to stare at you with her mouth open

So, after the other girls saw my girlfriend they did do the same as your friend did

Next thing I know they`re all over me, hugging me, mailing everyday. I banged one of them already (I know what some guys say, be patient, let them want it; but I'm a latin, I have it in my blood, we get in fast, we go out even faster!).

The moral of the story is:

GIRLS DON'T HAVE ANY SENSE OF ORIGINALITY, THEY WANT WHATEVER OTHER GIRLS WANT.

Make sure you learn it my friend.

And if she asks "Who was that girl?" just put a very sarcastic smile in your face and answer "My sister, why?!"

 

[DJ Alejandro]

thanks for all the responses guys.

Player_Supreme: thanks, im really gonna do that.

backbreaker: cOol, man. thanks. exactly my thoughts. i just didnt know how to handle it exactly the way i should.

VVV: i really appreciate what you say especially when you owe it to experience and you've helped a lot. but also with all due respect, i came here cuz i was looking for opinions no HOW to handle it EXACTLY as people of experience [like you.] would. because this is a legitimate question which means to me and calling it "one of the most stupid" according to your opinion, isn't really helpful. either way, thanks. i really appreciate your input.

 

[Vini Vidi Vici]

listen pal. I didn`t mean to be bad or offend you.

It is a legitimate question and I did it to myself some time ago. I just wished there was someone to tell me something like this.

I just think if it really hurts when you learn something it stays fixed for the rest of your life. I know I haven`t been nice to you and perhaps you don`t like me, but that`s not the point. You know the easyest to recall are the bad memories? Well, I played with your pride so that next time you`re in the same situation you`ll remember this.

Peace.

 

[DJ Alejandro]

Originally posted by Vini Vidi Vici
I just think if it really hurts when you learn something it stays fixed for the rest of your life. I know I haven`t been nice to you and perhaps you don`t like me, but that`s not the point. You know the easyest to recall are the bad memories? Well, I played with your pride so that next time you`re in the same situation you`ll remember this.

Peace.

i ask a question and this is what i get. simply stating that though it is a light type of flaming, it isnt very helpful, i get a lesson on pride. i give up.

 

[backbreaker]

funny story that happened yesterday that related perfectly to this:


I was at home, sleep and my phone rang. It was this girl I have been sorta seeing/sleeping with for the last 3 weeks (PlayerSupreme and Purto Rican lover would be proud of me, because she is actually black ) and asks can she come over my house to hang out with me for a while. I tell her sure, so she comes over and we are watching TV and somehow we get on the subject on sex.

Then this chick comes out of the blue and asks me when was the last time I had sex. I had sex with a stripper I met around a couple of weeks back the night before, so I told her that she honestly didn't want to know and I tired to change the subject. She keep presisting, so I went ahead and told her that I had sex the night before. Mind you by now she is sitting on top of me giving me a back message.

She starts making these smart-alicky remarks about how I don't need to do anything with her because I just had sex. I then told her "look babe, I told you that you didn't want to know, why in the hell are you getting mad that I told the truth? We aren't married, we aren't engaged hell we aren't even dating, but you think you have the right to come in my house and tell me that it's not okay to have sex with someone?". Then I told her politely to get out and to call me when she wants to grow up (she is 4 years older than me).

Later that night, she calls me and asks what am I doing later that night? I wanted to give her the beneift of the doubt so I told her waiting for her to come over and she told me she would be over in an hour.

To make a long story short, she told me she was sorry for the way she acted earlier, and she gave me the best damn back message I ever had and we had sex 2 times last night and once this morning.

 

[DJ Alejandro]

im quite amazed at how you handled that girl.

WOW. [gives backbreaker a round of applause.]

so tell me, how'd u tell the girl "politely to leave"?

i have hard times saying that. i dunno how.

 

[backbreaker]

Thank you

Honestly, I just said "Look Babe, I am going to have to ask you to leave".

 

[KC_Seductive]

Originally posted by backbreaker
Thank you

Honestly, I just said "Look Babe, I am going to have to ask you to leave".

That was good. Not extremely harsh, yet right to the point.
Giving them a spanking like that fries their circuits.

I ran into a similar situation a few weeks ago.
I emailed a woman who was a bit b*tchy with me. I informed her that I was disappointed in her behavior and I made sure to point out that her sister (Who is just as fine) always treated me with respect. I ended the email with: "Too bad, I thought you were better than that."

She left messages on my answering machine that same night apologizing profusely and asking me to call her. I finally picked up the phone on one of her attempts. (Gotta luv that caller id!) She apologized some more and I gave her another chance.

Wound up laying pipe to her the next night.

Women will often apologize to you when you call them on their B.S.
Don't take their sh*t. They'll respect you for it.

 

[DJ Alejandro]

hey guys, i have an update.

maybe because of what she saw last friday [saturday in the US], today she has been totally trying to catch my attention.

like today i was in the open side of the building while she was on the other side. she was constantly seen where i could easily see her.

she also walks in front of me a few times and does that "other side of the building" thing again.

then to cap it, imagine this; a flight of stairs going up with two flights going up on each side. i was facing the wall in between the two flights of stairs and she goes down from the left side, looks at me with a sorta half-smile and then up on the right side.

i dunno what to do with this one. the first few times i tried to approach her earlier this month but she avoided me by hiding behind her friends and leaves. and now this???

my girl friends are getting pissed off with her already cuz she "always tries to catch my attention".

 

[DJ Alejandro]

the problem is i dunno what to do with her anymore.

 

[backbreaker]

another example, which ironicaly took place the day before the other one I previously posted.


This same girl I just posted about was over my house, and we had just went to see a play together and we were at my crib drinking and just hanging out for the most part.

Out of all of the women I talk to on a constant basis, there is one who I will say honestly has my number. She is about as smooth as you will find anyone. Although she looks great she is not a godess or any thing along thoose lines. I think the thing is that I have never actually set out to do something and not be able to accomplish it, and this girl I actually want(ed) to date and no matter how hard I try she says she sees me as a friend more than anything. But with that said, and she can BS me otherwise all day, she is attracted to me.

Anyway, let me finish my story. This girl has a BF, which I don't have a problem with either way, but she has picked up the habit of calling me late right before she goes to bed every night. Not late as in 10:00pm late, late as she is calling me while I am on my way from the bar/club/girls house late. So I am chilling with this chick, and my phone rings. I already know who it is because she is the only person I would allow to call me at this time of the night.

Her: So what are you doing? Are you busy?

Me: Well.. Actually I am kinda busy, is it alright if I call you back?

Her: What are you doing?

Me: Actually I have company over right now.

Her: Is that right? Is it a girl?

Me: lol, does it matter babe?


Her: uh, yeah it does.

Me: I don't have time for games right now babe, I'll call you back.


She called me when I was leaving work yesterday and we had a nice talk. Somehwere in the middle of our converstion I remembered what had happened above and I brogut it up, and she said " I was just playing around with you, because I never called you while you have had a girl over... So did you have sex?" However, and using common sense, she wasn't just joking, no one can come up with a "joking" response as quickly as that. She may have conveniced herself that she was joking around, but I know it was a natural reaction to me seeing other women. What I really think it is is that she really doesn't want to break up with her BF, and I commend that, so she tries to convence herself that she isn't attracted to something when she is.

 

[DJ Alejandro]

hmm.. why is it that other DJs seem to have more DJ-type scenarios..

she was quite concerned about you having sex so the interest was definitely there.

i have another question. the girls who have high IL seem to be very cold when i talk to them but when i turn my back seem to be ecstatic yet other girls would try to catch your attention even more. [especially after seeing you with another girl.] what more do you think appropriates you DJs?

 

[backbreaker]

well to answer your question, I won't date a woman who comes on too strong to me. IT tells me she is desperate, which means no one of status wants anything to do with her, which tells me I don't need to waste my time.

 

[DJ Alejandro]

wow.. great. i help out almost every dude i see whenever i log on in and then when its my turn and over 12,000+ members, almost nobody minds. thanks a lot..

i guess id better be more selective with people i give advice to.