Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
blackbelt2k said:right...and how many GOOD mothers are there out there??? Last time i looked at the percentages children were having children... he's not using the kid as a way in, persay, he can however accept that the hb comes with baggage, and show he is non threatening by helping her with her bags, so to speak...
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
It isn't a matter of working hard, its a matter of interpreting her sub-communication... A chicks word doesn't mean $hitoteao99 said:lol. If you want to work hard to change how she thinks about you then do that
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
GtarPlayr73 said:I dated this HB9 woman back in 2000-2001 for several months before ending things. Two years ago, i contacted her and we started seeing each other again. Things were much better than the first time around, only she had put on some weight, enough for it to be a problem for me and i made the mistake of telling her so. I dropped her for a blond i met at a party. Over the past year, i stayed in touch with the HB9 via email. She started working out and began getting back in shape. (She was originally devastatingly beautiful before she had a son at an early age). She lost a lot of weight and sent me a pic to prove it. Then we ran into each other at a local supermarket. It was like something out of the movies. She wasn't kidding - she was back to her stunning and slim HB9 potential. I emailed her (didn't have her number), expressed interest, she had compliments for my longer hair as well. She said she was engaged and couldn't see me. Later, when i nonchalantly pressed for the wedding date, she said she had called it off. (Hmmm...all a fabrication to make me regret not sticking with her?). So i gave her the benefit of the doubt and waited several months before emailing her today. I made it clear i wanted to pursue her again and conveyed sexual designs, while throwing in some push-pull. I asked her for her number and she gave it to me in her reply - it was the first thing she wrote. Then she wrote "Don't call anytime soon, but that way you have it". She then said she would be reluctant to get into a sexual relationship given that she couldn't trust my intentions. (She does have a healthy sex drive and is very open about it).
Obvious Question: Is "Don't call anytime soon" just an Anti-Slut Defense and she does want to hear from me soon or do you think she really wants me to wait? If i called her tonight or tomorrow, would she be offended or not cool with it?