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LARaiders85

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You sound jaded, man, in all fairness.
I mean if I sound jaded it's because I have seen it all and I don't make threads about every little comment a woman says lol. I don't even remember half of my dates.

If there is one thing I can't stand, it's someone that leaves out info as if we should read their minds, then gets snotty. Autistic people live in their own world and it translates to defensiveness and egoism.
 
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I mean if I sound jaded it's because I have seen it all and I don't make threads about every little comment a woman says lol. I don't even remember half of my dates.
I hear you. I don't blame you. These are horrid/weird times. I think we are all going through some sort of transition. To what I don't know.

If there is one thing I can't stand, it's someone that leaves out info as if we should read their minds, then gets snotty. Autistic people live in their own world and it translates to defensiveness and egoism.
Fair point. Not all context was given. We had to read between the lines. But autistic the guy is not. He is having success with Mode one.
 

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Fair point. Not all context was given. We had to read between the lines. But autistic the guy is not. He is having success with Mode one.
I certainly wasn’t expecting anyone to read between the lines. Assumptions were made. I certainly don’t have the time nor the desire to write out every single convo verbatim.

I wanted to share how a girl still goes for a guy who she claims is emotionally unavailable. That was the whole point of this post. Nothing more.
 

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I certainly wasn’t expecting anyone to read between the lines
I knew what you meant, but sometimes you have to take into account your audience.

Assumptions were made.
That goes without saying here. Folks think they know your life story because of one post or statement. The dummies here will usually respond with something asinine like "oh that's blue pill you are blue pill!!" you see then the "debate" becomes completely polarized. There is no discussion when things become polarized.

I certainly don’t have the time nor the desire to write out every single convo verbatim.
Everyone is different. My stories can be long.

I wanted to share how a girl still goes for a guy who she claims is emotionally unavailable. That was the whole point of this post. Nothing more.
And you did. no matter what you write you will receive good and bad responses. Take it with a pinch of salt.
 

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@lost_blackbird Do you think you would make a good door to door salesman?
I'm very high functioning and spend most of my time quite successfully masking my condition, I suppose you could call
that play acting but it does go deeper. I've learned over time from studying others when it's time to make a joke, or say
sympathetic things or when to be serious, or encouraging to others, even when to flare up and put someone in their place.
Because of this I can switch into any character necessary when necessary. But it's all learned behaviour, like a computer
program. I don't actually feel any of those things. So I could certainly be a charming salesman, after all that's just faking
an interest in the customer to close the deal. Truth be told I'd sooner just avoid others entirely but I have had to develop
these 'personality programs' to appear normal when I'm forced to interact with others as it's pretty much unavoidable in
day to day life. For example I'm always super polite to shop workers to such an extent that they'll remember me next time
I come in and they will often go out of their way for me. I do find it exhausting though because it doesn't come naturally
so when I've been social I need some solitude to decompress and reset. Hope that answers your question.
 

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I'm very high functioning and spend most of my time quite successfully masking my condition, I suppose you could call
that play acting but it does go deeper. I've learned over time from studying others when it's time to make a joke, or say
sympathetic things or when to be serious, or encouraging to others, even when to flare up and put someone in their place.
Because of this I can switch into any character necessary when necessary. But it's all learned behaviour, like a computer
program. I don't actually feel any of those things. So I could certainly be a charming salesman, after all that's just faking
an interest in the customer to close the deal. Truth be told I'd sooner just avoid others entirely but I have had to develop
these 'personality programs' to appear normal when I'm forced to interact with others as it's pretty much unavoidable in
day to day life. For example I'm always super polite to shop workers to such an extent that they'll remember me next time
I come in and they will often go out of their way for me. I do find it exhausting though because it doesn't come naturally
so when I've been social I need some solitude to decompress and reset. Hope that answers your question.
you can beat the naturals because they sometimes don't know why things work. you know why and have a program that can be patched. when the naturals screw up they think it's luck. for us, we can tear it apart and try again all the while making changes until it's working. with persistence, you can win over naturals all the time. they can not do what you do and might even try to shame you to keep you at bay.
 

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Pretty simple. My response:

"I'm very emotionally available - to the right person. It takes time to get to know someone and I'm not the type to open the vault and spill all the contents right away. Plus, it's a real turn off when people do that with me. I like where things are going so far, but understand if you want a guy who is more sensitive with his feelings. Let me know if it's not working for you."
 

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nice, I’ve been a member since afzalg was a member, whenever I’ve run it I’ve always been cold. Might switch back.
Sorry to get off topic
 

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nice, I’ve been a member since afzalg was a member, whenever I’ve run it I’ve always been cold. Might switch back.
Sorry to get off topic
afzalg was the only alpha I’ve ever known. We could use his influence around here tbh
 
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