"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Girl I like says i'm mouthy
- Thread starter Kuwi
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I said so you think i'm mouthy huh? (someone had told me she said it) she says to me: you are mouthy.TheEdgeOf said:But seriously, it really depends on the context in which she said it and also how she said it. But from my experience, no it's not a good sign.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I think she was joking.TheEdgeOf said:Wow, with so much context, it's surprising that I still can't find an answer.
Dude, I'll just give a point from how I live
Edge's rule of Pick Up Artistry #24;
If she's joking, joke back, if she's not, f*ck her
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Not sure without the context.
Whatever the case, proceed and see where she stands on it. Get more information.
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Kuwi said:I'm thinking thats not a good sign, and she probably doesn't like me. What do you think?
What I think is that you are developing a case of oneitis. If a girl says something like that and means it, you need to see it as a control tool.
She is claiming the power and doesn't respect you as a man. She is taking the dominant almost parental role instead of being submissive.
Also if you like this type of agressive shemale then knock yourself out.
If it was me I would of asked her what she ment by that then asked her if she thought she was all that to even say some crazy wacko thing like that to me.
For me it would of killed my attraction down to 0. Many years ago when I was young I had girls call me a pest.
They took the higher position instead of respecting my manhood and ability to fvck the shyt out of them because they didn't see me in that light.
I was immature back then and not in full possession of my masculinity. I was living a role of the shy meek guy.
Until I got smart and dropped that facade.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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