Theres this girl that really likes me, and I like her too, but she's really not my type. She's pretty cool and all I want from this is a good friendship with benefits. This is kind of hard to do though since I met her through my other friends that go to school(college) with her and she hangs out with them too. Now if it was any other girl I would hit it and quit it, but I can't do this with this one since I would see her again cuz she likes to hang out with my other friends. She's already kissed me and she's also bought clothes for my daughter which was kind of crazy... I'm not looking for a LTR, and it seems like she is, how can I go about showing her I just want to be her friend with benefits?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Make it well known you aren't interested in an LTR. If she's still hanging around after that, giving you kino, she may understand.
Or you could just be completely honest and tell her your thoughts. I highly doubt she'd cut off a friendship because of that.
Or you could just be completely honest and tell her your thoughts. I highly doubt she'd cut off a friendship because of that.
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Master Don Juan
Just be honest with her. Tell her what you want. No, not you wanna put your beef in her taco! Say you would rather just be friends with benefits.
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Master Don Juan
You can't have your cake and eat it as well (well, most the time). You want her to still be friends with you but you want to use her just for sex? Most of the times this doesn't really work. When men have Fbuddies, they aren't usually "friends" with them. It's more like they are leading them on to think that if they keep the sex up, there will be something down the road (which is of course false).
If you don't want to hurt this girl, then there's really no hope for benefits. It's black and white here. You need to decide whether you care if this girl is hurt or not.
If you don't want to hurt this girl, then there's really no hope for benefits. It's black and white here. You need to decide whether you care if this girl is hurt or not.
i wouldnt tell her that you just want to be friends with benefits. It'll make her look like a slut/easy. So she'll just deny you. You have to make it known through your actions.
First you guys have to keep hooking up, but be distant and don't try to get too close. Don't always call her, sometimes (like on the weekends) just do your own thing. And then on Sunday invite her over. By you being very indenpendent, she'll get the clue that your not a relationship kind of guy, yet she's still attracted to you.
However (depending on the girl) "a friends with benefits" cannot last forever. At one point she'll bring up the dreaded talk, "so what are we?" You just gotta reinforce her that you guys get a long great and that you would never wanna lose her. Unfortunately she'll be forced to make an ultimatum, commit or walk away. Things will end between you guys, but thats when you go out sarging again and find a new one
First you guys have to keep hooking up, but be distant and don't try to get too close. Don't always call her, sometimes (like on the weekends) just do your own thing. And then on Sunday invite her over. By you being very indenpendent, she'll get the clue that your not a relationship kind of guy, yet she's still attracted to you.
However (depending on the girl) "a friends with benefits" cannot last forever. At one point she'll bring up the dreaded talk, "so what are we?" You just gotta reinforce her that you guys get a long great and that you would never wanna lose her. Unfortunately she'll be forced to make an ultimatum, commit or walk away. Things will end between you guys, but thats when you go out sarging again and find a new one
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.