"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Girl I have my eye on invited me to her party...

dj23

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1st of all, dont get down on ur self
2nd she is definitely interested in you, go for it and get her number as soon as possible
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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kalash74

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I already have her number.
I am thinking of asking her to hang out on friday. One of her best friends lives very near to me, would it be a good idea to say that friend can come too so she doesn't feel uncomfortable about it? I plan on having at least one of my friends come with too.
 

kev me723

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My God. I haven't been on here in awhile and I just realized how rediculous some of this is. I CAN'T believe I used to talk just like most of the people on this message board. STOP OVERTHINKING THINGS. Holy ****, when you show up and she's the only one there you are in luck, my friend! You could have totally just chilled with her/made a move.

OK, when you are at a party, note the word PARTY, assuming people are drinking that is. That means that since it's a party, you can do rediculous things you wouldn't normally do. You can hook up with 5 different girls if you want.

Heres my advice of the day: Get a way to stay out all night, and go to a college party. Any college party. It doesn't matter if you don't know a single person there, you can always bullsh it if you need to. Get drunk, talk to people, watch other guys that know what they are doing. Repeat that like 20 times and you will be awesome at quick hook ups. I promise.

As far as starting a relationship... Find someone that is good at them and talk to them about it. You gotta hear it from the people that know what they are doing.

DON'T GIVE UP!!!! KEEP YOUR HEAD UP AND KEEP TRYING!!
 

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art of said:
Not gonna lie i don't know how you bailed out on that one, but maybe you can turn it around. Just pull a 180 on her. You already attracted her enough for her to invite you and naturaly probly gave off a bit of an anxious vibe, then at the party you should little interest or assertiveness. Only way your turning this around now is to be very forward with her and ask her out on a date. She might just be confused enough to say yes
back in my afc days not doing anything is EXACTLY what i would have done no joke whne she moved drinks and and said it warmer over here i guarntee u i wouldve thought to myself "if i move over there ill bet she will reject me and look at me like im a freak"
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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kalash74

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Thanks for all the help guys. I am getting this all straightened out. Planning to hang out with her on saturday.
 
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