"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl has recently come out of a LTR and is very open about her life story

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Don Juan
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Just met a girl (online dating) who has come out of a 15year relationship 5 months ago (she is 33) and we have had two great dates – so much in common, ideas, views, likes, good laughs, very affectionate.... (first date I kiss closed) and the second we are in bed after a great day together. She initiates kissing, holding hands, cuddling. She even washed up and made the bed for me:yes:

Now, she has told me her life story and has mentioned her ex a bit...from all the bits, it sounded a mundane lifestyle they had (doing up the house, no holidays, not dining out, etc..) and they had fallen out of love and she tried to leave some 7 years ago.

So, I enjoy her company and know that I could be rebound guy so therefore I am keeping close check on things! No texting...set up meeting up face to face but how do I play this?

Secondley, her openness, is this a good thing or a massive red flag?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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