"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Girl has problems at home
- Thread starter gymshorts
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I wonder why nobody has responded to you yet.Doesnt matter I will be happy to be the first.gymshorts said:
1.At the begining be nice and calm,all that girls one is security,PROVIDE IT!
2.If you can,try to cheer her up,try to tell her she is over these problems and she can get over them.
3.Don't go against her parents' words,I mean don't do anything they wont like. You want (I suppose) to give her the best.Don't try to confront her with her parents(if you want to extinguish fire , you use water,but not burn all the woods)
4.If the situation is not getting better leave her.It is rude but it will be the best thing for you.IF you fail to make the things better juet leave them to get worse and worse,,, but out of your sight
I hope mu post is not very obscure.
Docs
Banned
Be careful though, it's a Red Flag for her to have home problems, because they transfer into Depression and Attitude Changes.
As for her talking to you about it, take a listen, but don't tell her what to do, listen and move onto something completely unrelated...preferably towards interest raising crap.
shes kinda wierd and i can tell that she doesnt really know what she wants... i think its best to let her be for now, but the only thing is that she keeps on flirting with me and idk what to do. Ive asked her out twice and both times she said yes and both times she flaked and yet the next day in class shell be rubbing her damn leg up against mine and giving me every look possible. I just dont get it
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Docs
Banned
I'll pick you up.
Docs
Banned
A date can be anything.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.