. About two months ago I met this chick online at a club and we were grinding.and.dancing etc....we start talking again and I find out she's going through some pretty big personal.stuff with losing.a family.member. So I go out for.drinks the other night with her I figure she just wants an escape I wasn't gonna try and make a move but the date was going well and she was touchy and real flirty...... when I told her I was only.22 she's like is it weird I find.it a turn on your young but look older?. So I made out with her in the car she said text me. I never text a girl.that night I usually wait one or two days with a quick follow up.... Damn I.wanted this one fellas. ): my breathe doesn't stink and I consider myself.a good kisser so why the **** do these chicks make out with you and go.ghost? Not the first time this has happened to me. I am.of .the belief you must go.for.the kiss on the first date or she wont respect you.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
girl going ghost after succesful first date
- Thread starter captain55
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
The only possible explanation I can think I can think of is maybe this ***** was turned off lol. I. Forgot to bring my card with me and ran out of money when she wanted to.drink.more, only.brought eighty bucks with me haha. Then again we only had two drinks each so she wasn't drunk.either when she made out with me. Should I pull the hail marry and ask her out to.dinner?
I wouldn't read too much into it, how long has it been since you last heard from her? Probably best off going no contact until you here from her, if you don't hear from her for a full week you can text her "hi" and see how she responds.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Well a couple things. On the date she even told me that she hates guys who are clingy and she kind of likes guys who are *******s.Obsidian said:
when she got in the car I asked her whats been going on and she said her brother died a few weeks ago, I went out of my way to show that I cared.. That kind of threw off my game for the date that night because when I met her at the club on the first date I was introduced to her brother. And the kid seemed like a cool dude...I felt pretty bad. Maybe I acted too nice and she viewed me as a chump or pushover.
Then again she still made out with me so...
who knows.