. About two months ago I met this chick online at a club and we were grinding.and.dancing etc....we start talking again and I find out she's going through some pretty big personal.stuff with losing.a family.member. So I go out for.drinks the other night with her I figure she just wants an escape I wasn't gonna try and make a move but the date was going well and she was touchy and real flirty...... when I told her I was only.22 she's like is it weird I find.it a turn on your young but look older?. So I made out with her in the car she said text me. I never text a girl.that night I usually wait one or two days with a quick follow up.... Damn I.wanted this one fellas. ): my breathe doesn't stink and I consider myself.a good kisser so why the **** do these chicks make out with you and go.ghost? Not the first time this has happened to me. I am.of .the belief you must go.for.the kiss on the first date or she wont respect you.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
girl going ghost after succesful first date
- Thread starter captain55
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
The only possible explanation I can think I can think of is maybe this ***** was turned off lol. I. Forgot to bring my card with me and ran out of money when she wanted to.drink.more, only.brought eighty bucks with me haha. Then again we only had two drinks each so she wasn't drunk.either when she made out with me. Should I pull the hail marry and ask her out to.dinner?
I wouldn't read too much into it, how long has it been since you last heard from her? Probably best off going no contact until you here from her, if you don't hear from her for a full week you can text her "hi" and see how she responds.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Well a couple things. On the date she even told me that she hates guys who are clingy and she kind of likes guys who are *******s.Obsidian said:
when she got in the car I asked her whats been going on and she said her brother died a few weeks ago, I went out of my way to show that I cared.. That kind of threw off my game for the date that night because when I met her at the club on the first date I was introduced to her brother. And the kid seemed like a cool dude...I felt pretty bad. Maybe I acted too nice and she viewed me as a chump or pushover.
Then again she still made out with me so...
who knows.