"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Girl from work

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There is this girl I like, and I pretty sure she likes me. Most days she usually touches me multiple times. One day, she said, referred to the fact I am the only guy that works there. She smiled and said why you don’t take advantage of it.
So I am guessing that was a sign that she likes me. So I was like okay I took the hint, and tried to get her number. I got it yet, didn't get anything arraigned.

Later she said, I don’t think I want a relationship. She said that the last one she had at work, was with another guy and went it ended it caused problems at work. But beforehand she was touching me, and afterwards she even(I think shoved her breasts at me). So I am guessing this is b.s.

So I was thinking of calling her in a couple of days. Maybe kiss her at work.

What do you think.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I wouldn't kiss her or make a move on her at work. Get together with her outside of work and go with the flow from there.
 

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I would never again become involved in any way with a girl whom I had to work with or whom I had to always see on a regular basis, I only ever sarge girls in an evironment where I never have to go or see them again, it just creates problems, I wouldn't get involved. :cool:
 

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Why not kiss her at work?

Is it weird? I've seen it done before.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I am guessing you were meaning to warm her up before the kiss (I don't think she'd appreciate you just going up and kissing her), plus look at it from your colleague's point of view. Unless you are definitely a couple and they know it, they may see it as harassment (especially if she pulls away).

Keep the romance/intimacy for outside of work or lunch breaks. The people you see kissing have probably been together for quite a while.
 

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I don't think so

She makes the moves on me, so don't you think it would me natural to kiss her? Of course I would wait till she makes the move on me.
 

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Old saying goes, don't judge a woman on her words, judge her on her actions.
 

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Thanks for your help

I usually judge by actions more than words.
 

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Dude she's probably a ho, ho's always say stuff like "I don't want a relationship", which is true because she probably only wants sex, especially if she's young.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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So do you suggest

Should I invite her to social events? I could then, make the moves there.
 

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She doesn't want a date. She just wants to bang you. Call her up, ask her if she wants to go for a ride. Take her to a secluded location and bang her. With this type of girl, it turns her on to know that you're picking her up for the sole purpose of driving her somewhere to bang her without AFC frills.

Treat a ho like a ho. That's what gets them off. This is how you treat a ho. Treat her decently, but without hiding your intention to bang her good.

Don't be afraid to be sloppy with a girl like this. She prefers it that way. Keep it out of work though.
 

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So you are saying..

Just call her and ask to go for a ride. Where should I fvck?
 

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^^^ Wherever she lets you :crackup:
 

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KoalaKing said:
I would never again become involved in any way with a girl whom I had to work with or whom I had to always see on a regular basis, I only ever sarge girls in an evironment where I never have to go or see them again, it just creates problems, I wouldn't get involved. :cool:

+1 on the bro!! Even if the relationship is healthy and mature, its just set up to fail since there's no alone time.

crossboss: Don't kiss her @ work bro!! What are you 12?? LOL Just keep flirting with her and see what happens. Your goal should be to fuvk this chick, so work on getting her alone outside of work where you can lay the smack down.



PIMP
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Just invite her over to watch a movie. Sex always happens if you have any game and she's loose. And it's basically free.
 

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Yep, fu&k her like everyone says, then wait for the fireworks. Dude, if you do that she's got you wrapped around her little pinkie. Upset her in the future, and she could turn around and claim you assaulted her. Imagine if you both go for the same job/promotion???
 

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Pimp-sicle said:
+1 on the bro!! Even if the relationship is healthy and mature, its just set up to fail since there's no alone time.

crossboss: Don't kiss her @ work bro!! What are you 12?? LOL Just keep flirting with her and see what happens. Your goal should be to fuvk this chick, so work on getting her alone outside of work where you can lay the smack down.



PIMP

Then I must be a genius. A twelve year old working at a job? Give me a break. But thanks for your advice.
 

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LongDrinkofWater said:
^^^ Wherever she lets you :crackup:

I don't know about that. You can't just fvck her anywhere. It has to make sense. Although I didn't say any examples either. How does car feel?
 

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Rondavu said:
She doesn't want a date. She just wants to bang you. Call her up, ask her if she wants to go for a ride. Take her to a secluded location and bang her. With this type of girl, it turns her on to know that you're picking her up for the sole purpose of driving her somewhere to bang her without AFC frills.

Treat a ho like a ho. That's what gets them off. This is how you treat a ho. Treat her decently, but without hiding your intention to bang her good.

Don't be afraid to be sloppy with a girl like this. She prefers it that way. Keep it out of work though.
The original poster needs to heed the words of this post, it's the best advice in this thread.

And to answer your question about how it feels in the car, well, it feels mighty damn good as long as you don't have an E-brake jutting between your ribs or a steering wheel lodged in your buttcrack. How big is your car? :cool:
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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