So there's this girl that I hooked up with a couple times and talked to in may/june. We haven't talked much lately, especially since the summer started. She called me at 8:30ish, but I was at dinner with a friend so I didn't pick up. When it went to voicemail, I texted her saying "I can't talk right now...what's up?". She hasn't responded yet. Should I text/call her again or just forget about it and not say anything?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Girl from a couple months ago called
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
Leave it. Ball's in her court. Most likely she's in a dry spell and you were contacted for validation and out of boredom. If she really wants to talk to you she'll make the time, you replied....once.
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write 1234567890 then tell her its your favorite cab company and ignore the rest
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Mmm i duno think we need more info.. It depends on how you left it with her before, what kind of connection you had, etc.
It seems possible that you not answering and then txting back saying "i cant talk, whats up" spun her wheel a bit (maybe thinking you were with another chick) so she wanted to play down her interest or why she was contacting you, after all SHE did reach out to YOU.
It seems possible that you not answering and then txting back saying "i cant talk, whats up" spun her wheel a bit (maybe thinking you were with another chick) so she wanted to play down her interest or why she was contacting you, after all SHE did reach out to YOU.
in may, we talked at parties and hooked up a couple times. before the second time, she brought up the "what are we"/"what is this"/"I don't want to just be friends with benefits" blah blah. I told her to we'd see how things went and to bring it back up in a couple weeks. At this point, she knew that I was talking to other girls and that I wouldn't waste my time on her if things weren't going well. She mentioned how we barely talk outside of parties, and we said that we'd hang out. I hit her up to hang out a couple times, and she couldn't because of legitimate reasons. She didn't try to set up a date herself, so I just stopped trying after that. We lightly talk maybe once every 2-3 weeks or so now at a mutual friend's event. That's pretty much what it was beforejurry said:
Montague_Leach
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Ah, looking for a return rate on some poosey you already used. I wouldn't use text messaging for an occasion such as this my friend. Talking directly with the lass is always your best option when you can see what she wants to get out of you. Now that you established your communication with the lass, wait for her to get into communication with you. If you don't hear from her don't bother with her my friend. If you get the chance, bend her over and give her another really good reaming.justin11 said:
Gentlemen, it seems you have no mastery about the sexual relations of fU*ck partners. A lass with a horny poosey will float around from lad to lad getting a good reaming. When she calls you looking for the lasso, you oblige by bending her over and giving it to her hard.