"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"Girl - Friends"

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I've been kind of studying this topic and want to know what other high school DJs do about it. I've read things like "you should have 5 girl friends" (Swinggcat I believe?) to get you used to hanging around with girls. This idea totally makes sense to me, but the problem is that I don't have any girl friends that I hang out with. Notice I said hang out with because I do have girl friends but not any close enough to really "hang" with. Is this just a problem I have or have any of you guys been here? And how do I change it?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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5 girl friends that you regularily hang with? Umm I have like 1, and I am comfortable around chicks all the time. Remember dude, girls aren't some sort of "Super Gods" who we should be thankful even talk to us. Fact is they are the same as us guys... I'm in college now, but in highschool, cliques and groups seem to mean so much, but step over them, talk to any girl you like, if you feel uncomfortable, pretend its a dude (for now!!!) until you are really comforable with them.

But if you want to hit that 5 chick mark, just be friendly and say hi and SMILE to all the chicks you see. Being confident definitely attracts people to you.
 

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Question for all you DJs. I am seventeen years old. I have a really good sense of humor, and am generally easy going. I am freinds with a lot of girls. I can generally mingle pretty easily among different groups at school. There is one in particular that I really dig. I asked her out a while ago and she said, " I liked just being friends" I know she isn't involved with any other guys. I was just wandering what to do from here. I could just get another girl, but I really like this one. If any one has any advice, it'd be greatly apreciated. Thanks.
 

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Get another girl; if you are desperate over this one, search and use gangi games, but only if a) you dont mind not being friends with her b) your good with girls in the first place.



My advice would be, she rejected you, leave it at that.
 

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Thanks for the advice. I have been playing the Gangi games, sorta. See, she lives in florida,and I lived there to for many years, but now I live in ecuador, South America. So it isn't so hard to play the gangi games. This leads me to another question. Do long-distance relations work? I mean I do go back to florida every five months, and I will be going back permanantly. Another question. Same girl, she is crazy about california guys, and wo't shut up about them. How di I get her back into thinking about me? Guess I will have to keep playing gangi games, or just move on. Any answers to the questions would be appreciated. Thanks. sorry its so long.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Re: Question

Originally posted by wavejams007
Question for all you DJs. I am seventeen years old. I have a really good sense of humor, and am generally easy going. I am freinds with a lot of girls. I can generally mingle pretty easily among different groups at school. There is one in particular that I really dig. I asked her out a while ago and she said, " I liked just being friends" I know she isn't involved with any other guys. I was just wandering what to do from here. I could just get another girl, but I really like this one. If any one has any advice, it'd be greatly apreciated. Thanks.
i was too lazy 2 read the whole thing but from the first 2 sentences it seemsl ike u are in a ***** TRANCE.
 

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Re: Question

Originally posted by wavejams007
Question for all you DJs. I am seventeen years old. I have a really good sense of humor, and am generally easy going. I am freinds with a lot of girls. I can generally mingle pretty easily among different groups at school. There is one in particular that I really dig. I asked her out a while ago and she said, " I liked just being friends" I know she isn't involved with any other guys. I was just wandering what to do from here. I could just get another girl, but I really like this one. If any one has any advice, it'd be greatly apreciated. Thanks.
play up other girls, and let her see it. this will raise her interest level. talk to her like you talk to your friends, give her no special treatment, then try again at a later date
 

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I agree with mr.Debonaire,

you should play with other girls and when she starts dropping hints, she should, casually notice them. dont totally ignore them but casually accept them. drop a few yourself. If she interested, she'll start touching you slightly, when you dont respond, she'll be intrigued. When she makes a big move on you, then you pop into high gear and you've got her.
 

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MOVE ON. Odds are she doesn't care; ganji games aren't that useful when you do them on purpose. Find a different girl.
 

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Re: Question

Originally posted by wavejams007
Question for all you DJs. I am seventeen years old. I have a really good sense of humor, and am generally easy going. I am freinds with a lot of girls. I can generally mingle pretty easily among different groups at school. There is one in particular that I really dig. I asked her out a while ago and she said, " I liked just being friends" I know she isn't involved with any other guys. I was just wandering what to do from here. I could just get another girl, but I really like this one. If any one has any advice, it'd be greatly apreciated. Thanks.
Well i'm gonna quote someone that posted in a thread when asked about getting out of the friend zone. (YES YOU ARE IN THE FRIEND ZONE sadly)
"It's like D-day you're gone before even hitting the water."
In other words give up on the girl. Obviously you're just an AFC to her. Become more Dominant. You are what you think -Pook.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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