I have a friend of mine who is going through a hard time with guys right now. I do not want to get involved with her since she would have to be the desperate AFC on the girl side of things. Anyway Im trying to help her with stuff i have learned from here and all but its kinda hard to convert it from the guy to girl viewpoint. Can i get some links to female sites like this and any other info that might help her get back on her feet and be more confident about her self ect.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
"girl" friend of mine needs some help.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
So what you're asking from us is links to female websites that offer dating advice or life advice to help you help her? That contradicts with your statement "I do not want to get involved with her since she would have to be the desperate AFC on the girl side of things" (Which that statement was self-contradictory in itself.)
Buddy, advice websites can only offer so much, the rest is much to be discovered by yourself.
Buddy, advice websites can only offer so much, the rest is much to be discovered by yourself.
ok.
well.. I dont want to get involved with her romanticly then. She already says she liked me and stuff but she has like told me her life story (good and bad) and i dont want to get with her that way, but through MSN i can tell she was like me in the past (Lines like "What did I do wrong" Why wont he call me" ect. Lota AFC like issues it sounds like) and I dono how i could just help her find a path that will help her self esteme and such.
well.. I dont want to get involved with her romanticly then. She already says she liked me and stuff but she has like told me her life story (good and bad) and i dont want to get with her that way, but through MSN i can tell she was like me in the past (Lines like "What did I do wrong" Why wont he call me" ect. Lota AFC like issues it sounds like) and I dono how i could just help her find a path that will help her self esteme and such.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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thats exactly it. Im just wondering is there anything I can do to help or should I just slowly fade out? she gets sad when other guys she thinks like her ban her on MSN and I cant be so cruel to do the same.
thats exactly it. Im just wondering is there anything I can do to help or should I just slowly fade out? she gets sad when other guys she thinks like her ban her on MSN and I cant be so cruel to do the same.
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Tell her not to try so hard...that if she comes across as too clingy and needy it scares guys off and freaks them out and is a turn off just like it does a girl. Tell her to be more of a challenge, not to tell a guy everything about her right away, to make him wonder about her.Originally posted by IM0001
thats exactly it. Im just wondering is there anything I can do to help or should I just slowly fade out? she gets sad when other guys she thinks like her ban her on MSN and I cant be so cruel to do the same.
Knock yourself out!
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I have a friend of mine who is going through a hard time with guys right now. I do not want to get involved with her since she would have to be the desperate AFC on the girl side of things. Anyway Im trying to help her with stuff i have learned from here and all but its kinda hard to convert it from the guy to girl viewpoint. Can i get some links to female sites like this and any other info that might help her get back on her feet and be more confident about her self ect.
Laterz...