I met this girl in class about a month ago. She recently broke up with her bf of 2 years. We started going out on small dates, going out to eat, and etc. Last week I asked her out to watch taken 2, and after that dinner. She accepted. Today I got a text from her saying "Changed of plan for tomorrow, my girls, and Moms are going out, so I can't. I'm sorry! I replied back with "yeah sure no prob".. What should I do. I still have to see her for another whole month in class; should I stop talking to her or what? Thank you
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Girl flaked on me
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
gspshields2
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Sounds like she is on the rebound, but now has buyers remorse.killa19 said:
She has low interest level now.
It could rebound, but don't grill her about it, pretend it never happened.
Ask her out again in a few weeks, and if she accepts cool, if not, doesn't
matter cause you have other options.
Purefilth
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Act like you normally would, she probably did have all the girls and moms go out together. These things happen.
Get her over to yours for a 'movie'.
then she's in your territory - controlled environment, and escalate to svxxin 'dat @ss!!
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=197542
^^^click this link and read if youre rusty on escalating ^^^
Get her over to yours for a 'movie'.
then she's in your territory - controlled environment, and escalate to svxxin 'dat @ss!!
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=197542
^^^click this link and read if youre rusty on escalating ^^^
Your mistakes in bold.killa19 said:
First of all, Taken 2??? Did you spend the first 2 trips to Wendy's talking about how she loved Taken 1??? Seriously, what girl wouldn't dump a man who asks her to watch the sequel to a video game that she never heard of, and which is rated 14 out of 100 (F)? And to boot, it's a Guy Film about espionage starring some old dude from Schindlers List?? Movie dates are generally bad enough, but for the love of God pick one she likes.
Next, if a girl cancels or declines a date and doesn't provide a rain check, you don't reply or expect another date. Go NC until she replies (in the 1-2 week zone there is a chance - after that generally none).
Third, don't go on small dates without establishing romance.
Fourth, you never act mad enough to avoid her. You never care enough to act mad. The best attitude is "no matter what she says I'll laugh at her" and "I hope she cancells so I can go out with someone better".
Let her see you happy and hopefully in better shape and with another girl by next month.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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bigneil said:
Your thinking of "Tekken 2" genius not "Taken 2",
Taken 2 is an action thriller with Liam Neeson, not the video game.
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Unfortunately, Tekken isn't sexy to a woman. There are no groupies for video games, unless of course the men playing them are top 10% men.gspshields2 said: