"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Girl flaked, but offered to watch movie at my house instead

Bettis76

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Set up a date with this chick that I know from school for a few months and she flaked (probably due to my indecisiveness). However she instead offered to come over to my house and watch a movie on Tuesday. How should I best approach the situation from now on?

Thanks
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Hmm...

This is one of those "What do I do, I don't know if she likes me" questions....
If she wants to come over to watch a movie, the question is, Do you have a problem with that?

Let things roll.
 

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WHAT?

If you're alone at home and she knows it, be sure she knows EXACTLY what she wants. Act accordingly.
 

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Stop being indecisive and tell her to come over on tuesday.

She flaked, but she counter-offered, so you're still in.

Hell, imo, coming over to watch a movie is way better than going out. You two can be really alone and things can get intimate, quickly. She's already at your house, so half the work is done.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Bettis76 said:
Set up a date with this chick that I know from school for a few months and she flaked (probably due to my indecisiveness). However she instead offered to come over to my house and watch a movie on Tuesday. How should I best approach the situation from now on?

Thanks
It doesn't count as a flake if she cancels and offers an alternative. The alternative sounds like fvcking her. I suggest you say yes.
 

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The Bad Ass Canadian said:
Stop being indecisive and tell her to come over on tuesday.

She flaked, but she counter-offered, so you're still in. ...
Why don't guys understand this???
 

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Id agree with everybody with the idea that youre in. What Id really like to ask though is if youre still in HS? You talk about knowing her from school and how she flaked but will come over to your house on Tuesday....so Im not trying to offend you in anyway.

Do you know how old she is? Ive had interesting stories in HS where the girl would completely lie about her age.(I was 18 and she says shes 16 or 17 but shes actually 12 when I come to meet her.AHHHH!!!! Thats why I always try to find out her age and the age on consent in your state before everything.) I still know girls now out of HS that lie about their age but not as much as ones that are still in teeny wenny high. My main point is: Everybody likes sex.:) (nomatter how old they are)

If you arent in HS I apologize because I dont mean to make this look like a kiddie problem. We all are a family here trying to figure out the same thing: Girls.

Bettis76 said:
Set up a date with this chick that I know from school for a few months and she flaked (probably due to my indecisiveness). However she instead offered to come over to my house and watch a movie on Tuesday. How should I best approach the situation from now on?

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Half the questions on this board can be answered with "just fvck her." This, fortunately for you, is one of them :)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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