"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Girl dilemma

drellum

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I'll try and keep this short:

Went out Friday night alone.

Ended up getting very friendly with a girl in the bar who then proceeded to come on really strong.
Bit of making out etc but she explained that she was in the process of coming out of a tricky relationship.

She was with a group of friends who all seemed nice and friendly. Got chatting to one of the girls there and said "I know this is a bit cheeky but if I asked would you give me your number".

She says "well, yes it is a bit cheeky"

So I say "Look, no problem, you just seemed like a nice person etc"

She then proceeds to give me her number anyway.

I text the original girl I had met on Saturday and she confirms that she is not really interested in hooking up at the moment because of her situation - that's fine - I wished her all the best.

My question is: How to proceed with Girl 2......should I proceed with girl 2......obviously they are friends and it will be mentioned. Is it a bit unethical or should I not worry.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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TED
So what's up?

RENISE
Eh.

TED
Great. Great.

So listen, uh, I was wondering if maybe you
wanted to go to the prom you know, with
me.

Renise looks unenthused.

TED
...Or NOT... It's no big deal, whatever I mean, if you
want.

RENISE
See, the thing is, I heard a rumor that
this guy I like was gonna ask me.

TED
Uh-huh.

RENISE
Yeah, so...I'm gonna wait and see what
happens there...But that sounds great,
yeah.

Ted nods, confused.

TED
Okay.

So is that a yes or a no?

RENISE
I think I was very clear, Ted. If
everything else falls apart, maybe.

Renise throws down her butt and storms off.

TED
I'm gonna hold you to that.

(Opening scene from Something About Mary which the OP bases his approach on, disqualifying himself as "cheeky").
 

drellum

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bigneil said:
TED
So what's up?

RENISE
Eh.

TED
Great. Great.

So listen, uh, I was wondering if maybe you
wanted to go to the prom you know, with
me.

Renise looks unenthused.

TED
...Or NOT... It's no big deal, whatever I mean, if you
want.

RENISE
See, the thing is, I heard a rumor that
this guy I like was gonna ask me.

TED
Uh-huh.

RENISE
Yeah, so...I'm gonna wait and see what
happens there...But that sounds great,
yeah.

Ted nods, confused.

TED
Okay.

So is that a yes or a no?

RENISE
I think I was very clear, Ted. If
everything else falls apart, maybe.

Renise throws down her butt and storms off.

TED
I'm gonna hold you to that.

(Opening scene from Something About Mary which the OP bases his approach on, disqualifying himself as "cheeky").
:-D
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

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