girl denying everything

[rsofa]

My friend which is a girl has some problems..

I like her and me and my friends go out a lot...
But she has some kind of blockade..
She doesn't want to get attached to us, me.... because she fears of the possibility of us leaving her behind sooner or later...
I found those things up and she told me some..

what should i do?
I also really like her.

 

[PeakIV]

You should keep her at arms length or have nothing to do with her. This girl has issues you couldn't possibly hope to deal with.

Read the BPD threads on this forum, their greatest fear is abandonment and they will deny everything.

If it walks like a duck.......

 

[rsofa]

Bpd?

A little help here?

 

[PeakIV]

put BPD into the sosuave search and read the threads, should answar your questions....

 

[nroug7]

She's most likely a dragon in chickens clothing.

Yep, I'm coining a new term here. Dragon's in chickens clothing.

 

[rsofa]

Please, please I beg you... give me a link
I don't know if im stupid but I just get results that don't have nothing to do with my problem :S

edit*
found some stuff..well that makes me sad if all of that is true


but can u confirm its bpd?
- thinks everyone hates her
- likes cats really much
- doesnt have motivation to learn
- she had a secret bf before, they just went out for walks...nothing serius, but in the end they had a bad breakup
- she always thinks shes in the way
- mises her childhood
- but a really happy person

is there a way to fix this?
to let her know we love her.
when I said i like her and that shes beautiful, she said that no who would like such an ugly girl..
please tell me therese a way...im stubborn and ill do anything to fix this because she is really awesome

 

[nroug7]

There is nothing you could do that would place you in a GOOD/HEALTHY Relationship with her, she will completely break you, destroy you and fvck with you emotionally.

It's not worth it.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=1985826&postcount=72
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=1986229&postcount=74
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=1986947&postcount=81

Get, The, Hell, Out.

I cannot stress this enough, I would have been AFC enough to actually think a relationship like that would work a few weeks ago, but get the heck out of there now, she is nothing but bad news.

 

[nroug7]

none of my replies seem to be showing up...

Edit: So how come my post containing links won't show up. Does it have to be approved by a moderator or something? I don't get it, cause if that's true that means I'm gonna have a quadruple post...

 

[rsofa]

read my last post i edited some

 

[nroug7]

Please, please I beg you... give me a link
I don't know if im stupid but I just get results that don't have nothing to do with my problem :S

edit*
found some stuff..well that makes me sad if all of that is true


but can u confirm its bpd?
- thinks everyone hates her
- likes cats really much
- doesnt have motivation to learn
- she had a secret bf before, they just went out for walks...nothing serius, but in the end they had a bad breakup
- she always thinks shes in the way
- mises her childhood
- but a really happy person

is there a way to fix this?
to let her know we love her.
when I said i like her and that shes beautiful, she said that no who would like such an ugly girl..
please tell me therese a way...im stubborn and ill do anything to fix this because she is really awesome

Hm, That sounds more like depression to me.

 

[Nite]

keep your distance especially if it's the the girl from before, gonna go out on a limb here.Your not gonna like it but, we will all say the same thing over and over regardless of what you want to hear. Just let her be.

 

[nroug7]

keep your distance especially if it's the the girl from before, gonna go out on a limb here.Your not gonna like it but, we will all say the same thing over and over regardless of what you want to hear. Just let her be.

This is the golden truth, it's not worth the risk and any harm that WILL occur to you.
This is the kind of thing where your LIFE could literally be on the line, and that's expected, since she will expect you to be her "White Knight" and put up with whatever she dishes out.

 

[rsofa]

theres nothing really to put up, cuz she isnt demanding...its just this "im not importaint" talk she has...
i dont know. i'm and idiot and wont stop sorry

 

[LearningSlowly]

Its amazing when guys are as addicted to drama as their girls are. Theres no helping this sort of people, they just have to make mistakes until theyre incredibly unhappy, and then maybe theyll learn something.

 

[rsofa]

I said to her that i love her more then anything, but she said that's not true because i dont love her and that probably she likes me more then I like her.
Why stuff like this?
I just cant let her know she's the only one. She thinks that im just saying things and not meaning them..

 

[BPH]

I said to her that i love her more then anything, but she said that's not true because i dont love her and that probably she likes me more then I like her.
Why stuff like this?
I just cant let her know she's the only one. She thinks that im just saying things and not meaning them..

You have listened to no advice and are therefore hopeless.

Read some Pook or HPRJ's journal, make your own journal, and stop being an AFC.

 

[rsofa]

all that was your advice was to let her go.
i need something else.

 

[ameya905]

Read the DJB..

 

[DanZy]

all that was your advice was to let her go.
i need something else.

No you don't need anything else, what you need is to listen to what we have to say. Why was that the advice given? Because it was the right move. Don't ask for advice and then reject it without even trying. You ignored what people told you and fvcked things up further.

 

[rsofa]

okay. ill read those things...but i have a feeling this is going nowhere