"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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girl demands you act like less of a jerk

piday314

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She's been diggin you but demands that you act like less of a jerk, i.e. making less fun of her and her friends, etc. Who's been here, done that?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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JLW

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There's a fine line between being the "funny guy who teases people" and "the rude jackass who is obnoxious."

I obviously wasn't there when you were being a "jerk" so to speak, so I can't say whether or not you truly were being an obnoxious d1ckhead or not.

You need to analyze your actions as objectively as you can and decide for yourself.
 

IamJosan

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I agree with runner83. Girls often times, if not always, say something and then do another.
 

PapiChulo

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Where are you at with her? Just starting, intimate, relationship? It could be a test to see if you drop the game which is a no-no.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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