"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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SnowBlind77

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dance coming up, im just wondering how to best handle the situation if your girlfriend dances with other guys. slow dancing i dont really give a sh*t, but if she was to start grinding with another guy, what should i do? should i play it cool, or should i get pissed at her, cuz if this was to happen i would get f*ckin pissed cuz im a really jealous guy.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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If she's your girlfriend, I think you have the right to get mad. I personally wouldn't, but it's your prerogative.
 

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she can do whatever she wants.

but she can't do whatever she wants if she wants to be with you.

you can't stop her from doing what she wants, but you can walk away from her.

so if you catch her doing that then you make the call. either you put up with that kind of behavior, or you move on.

whatever you do, don't berate her and chastise her. it will just make you look like a fool. next her and get a new girl. one with similar ethics as yourself.

J
 

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depends on the kind of dancing you're talking about. If she's just like club dancing or something that everybody's doing then grow up. I Shared a table with a guy and he instructed me to dance with his wife (who by the way is a bikini model) and believe you me I was all over that **** and he didn't seem to mind because he knew he was still going to be the one taking her home.

Conversely I wouldn't stand idly by if my girl friend was giving some dude a lap dance on the dance floor, As a guy you could see how this might lead the other gentleman on... you don't want that dram either.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by Warrior Princess
What kind of girl dances with other guys when she has a boyfriend?

If she knows that you're a jealous type and dances with other guys anyway then she's a dumb ho.
True , a girl shouldnt pull this sh1t from the get-go ... actually she's a smart ho if she knows she can make a guy jealous and get away with it ... that shows too much weakness on the man's part and that he needs to grow a pair and make her jealous by dancing with other girls.
 

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Grinding is getting too much to home port though if you get my drift. I mean, only you dock your ship there right (if you're her boyfriend)?
 

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Actually I have a better idea. Be the best damn dancer there so she can't help but dance with you and all the other ladies want to dance with you too. Then you have a "quality problem" rather than a "jealousy problem".
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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every gal knows this is disrespectful. if shes a keeper, she wont be doing this.
 

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if she does it, you should get mad and tell her she cant do that ****. you can make big argument. if it happends next time, you walk away and find new girl.
 

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Originally posted by SnowBlind77
dance coming up, im just wondering how to best handle the situation if your girlfriend dances with other guys. slow dancing i dont really give a sh*t, but if she was to start grinding with another guy, what should i do? should i play it cool, or should i get pissed at her, cuz if this was to happen i would get f*ckin pissed cuz im a really jealous guy.
First off, if you are already anticipating a problem before the dance has even started, you might be the one with issues, not her.

Second, the only answer to the "dance/bowl/watch cricket game/visit strip club with another guy" problem is a complete and total freeze out. Leave. Don't say goodbye. Take off. Don't look back. And, moreover, don't go home, go somewhere else and have a good time. Meet some other women.

By about the third "why are you mad at me" call the next day you should reply with:

"Look, you are an adult. You can do whatever you want and see whoever you want and (dance/bowl/watch cricket/play hide the salami) with whoever you want. Just don't expect me to sit around and wait for that. I don't have the time and I have other people to attend to if that's what you want. Maybe you should let me know when you feel you know what you want." -click-

Don't yell. Don't even raise your voice. Nothing is more effective than delivering this lecture with an even and matter-of-fact "I'm not bothered I just don't have time for this noise" tone.
 
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