"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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SnowBlind77

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dance coming up, im just wondering how to best handle the situation if your girlfriend dances with other guys. slow dancing i dont really give a sh*t, but if she was to start grinding with another guy, what should i do? should i play it cool, or should i get pissed at her, cuz if this was to happen i would get f*ckin pissed cuz im a really jealous guy.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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If she's your girlfriend, I think you have the right to get mad. I personally wouldn't, but it's your prerogative.
 

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she can do whatever she wants.

but she can't do whatever she wants if she wants to be with you.

you can't stop her from doing what she wants, but you can walk away from her.

so if you catch her doing that then you make the call. either you put up with that kind of behavior, or you move on.

whatever you do, don't berate her and chastise her. it will just make you look like a fool. next her and get a new girl. one with similar ethics as yourself.

J
 

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depends on the kind of dancing you're talking about. If she's just like club dancing or something that everybody's doing then grow up. I Shared a table with a guy and he instructed me to dance with his wife (who by the way is a bikini model) and believe you me I was all over that **** and he didn't seem to mind because he knew he was still going to be the one taking her home.

Conversely I wouldn't stand idly by if my girl friend was giving some dude a lap dance on the dance floor, As a guy you could see how this might lead the other gentleman on... you don't want that dram either.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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TxCowboy

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Originally posted by Warrior Princess
What kind of girl dances with other guys when she has a boyfriend?

If she knows that you're a jealous type and dances with other guys anyway then she's a dumb ho.
True , a girl shouldnt pull this sh1t from the get-go ... actually she's a smart ho if she knows she can make a guy jealous and get away with it ... that shows too much weakness on the man's part and that he needs to grow a pair and make her jealous by dancing with other girls.
 

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Grinding is getting too much to home port though if you get my drift. I mean, only you dock your ship there right (if you're her boyfriend)?
 

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Actually I have a better idea. Be the best damn dancer there so she can't help but dance with you and all the other ladies want to dance with you too. Then you have a "quality problem" rather than a "jealousy problem".
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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every gal knows this is disrespectful. if shes a keeper, she wont be doing this.
 

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if she does it, you should get mad and tell her she cant do that ****. you can make big argument. if it happends next time, you walk away and find new girl.
 

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Originally posted by SnowBlind77
dance coming up, im just wondering how to best handle the situation if your girlfriend dances with other guys. slow dancing i dont really give a sh*t, but if she was to start grinding with another guy, what should i do? should i play it cool, or should i get pissed at her, cuz if this was to happen i would get f*ckin pissed cuz im a really jealous guy.
First off, if you are already anticipating a problem before the dance has even started, you might be the one with issues, not her.

Second, the only answer to the "dance/bowl/watch cricket game/visit strip club with another guy" problem is a complete and total freeze out. Leave. Don't say goodbye. Take off. Don't look back. And, moreover, don't go home, go somewhere else and have a good time. Meet some other women.

By about the third "why are you mad at me" call the next day you should reply with:

"Look, you are an adult. You can do whatever you want and see whoever you want and (dance/bowl/watch cricket/play hide the salami) with whoever you want. Just don't expect me to sit around and wait for that. I don't have the time and I have other people to attend to if that's what you want. Maybe you should let me know when you feel you know what you want." -click-

Don't yell. Don't even raise your voice. Nothing is more effective than delivering this lecture with an even and matter-of-fact "I'm not bothered I just don't have time for this noise" tone.
 
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