"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Girl confusing me...NEXT her?

toddC

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Well boys, finally I gamed a girl that I NEVER hung out with before and NEVER talked to in my life. It was at my friends party last week. I was gaming some chick blah blah and eventually she gave me her number. That was on Friday. Now I waited 2 days to text her, so on Sunday I sent her a message. We had a texting convo but eventually I sent her a text and she didn't ever respond.

I got drunnk that night and came home and IMed her sayin somethign to the effect of, wow why didn't you text me back.

The next day (July 4th) she texted me saying how she forgot blah blah and we got into another texting convo and I ended it by telling her to call me later that night and she was like NO, you call ME :)...So I thought I was still in.

So I went down the shore to see fireworks later that night and decided to throw her a call before th fireworks started going off. So I called, it started to ring and then she picked up and then hung up.

So I prertty much was confused at this point...I gamd this girl perfectly that night we hung out. She was practically begging me to take her number and call her or what not..so I was thinkin wtf could have possibly happened?

Eventually I just decided to text her one more night and see whats up...so I texted her and got no response...I haven't done anything to talk to her since...
Should I just NEXT her? and what went wrong?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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we all eat food

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shes trying to play hard to get, your giving her too much attention, go game other girls in the meantime and then go back to her out of the blue
 

toddC

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yea but how long is "out of the blue" my last time talking to her was last thursday
 

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Last Thursday? Tomorrow would be a good time to just call her up. Keep the conversation extremely short and invite her to hang out. Don't ask her, invite her. Already have something going on and INVITE her to go with you.

Stop with all the texting. It's too easy to dump out information that may come off as AFC when you text. The whole lack of face-to-face stuff sort of removes all inhibitions when you're talking.
 

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My own rule:

"To talk to a woman, you must hear her voice."

Is she such a great girl that you would invest all of your time into her?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Zerotwoonenine

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idiot, you should have called her, anyway dont next her, keep her on the list for a while, see how things go.
 

Mr_rogers

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Zerotwoonenine said:
idiot, you should have called her, anyway dont next her, keep her on the list for a while, see how things go.
He isn't an idiot, he's learning, like many people here.
 

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You're too desperate for her attention. She doesn't IM you back, so you call her on it. She didn't text you back because she most likely considered the conversation light and unimportant to her. By bringing it up, acknowledging that it happened, you show her that her attention is important to you and she doesn't need to do anything special to get yours. She's enjoying all of this attention and so she tells you to call her. Just a test, just to see if you will, and just like she wanted you did.

Right now, she's playing you, trying to get your attention and toying with you. What you need to do is stop, back off for a while and play it cool, go work soem other girls. She'll wonder why you suddenly broke of contact, she'll become curious as she no longer understands your behavior. You will have become a mystery....to some extent.
 

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Well I came home one night drunk and called her out on it...but that was about it...that was the first time i texted her and she answered a few times but then stopped. I called her out on it and she texted me the next day blah blah but ya i know what you guys mean...i haven't talked to her in a while.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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