Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

Read more...

Girl confusing me...NEXT her?

toddC

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jul 28, 2005
Messages
421
Reaction score
0
Well boys, finally I gamed a girl that I NEVER hung out with before and NEVER talked to in my life. It was at my friends party last week. I was gaming some chick blah blah and eventually she gave me her number. That was on Friday. Now I waited 2 days to text her, so on Sunday I sent her a message. We had a texting convo but eventually I sent her a text and she didn't ever respond.

I got drunnk that night and came home and IMed her sayin somethign to the effect of, wow why didn't you text me back.

The next day (July 4th) she texted me saying how she forgot blah blah and we got into another texting convo and I ended it by telling her to call me later that night and she was like NO, you call ME :)...So I thought I was still in.

So I went down the shore to see fireworks later that night and decided to throw her a call before th fireworks started going off. So I called, it started to ring and then she picked up and then hung up.

So I prertty much was confused at this point...I gamd this girl perfectly that night we hung out. She was practically begging me to take her number and call her or what not..so I was thinkin wtf could have possibly happened?

Eventually I just decided to text her one more night and see whats up...so I texted her and got no response...I haven't done anything to talk to her since...
Should I just NEXT her? and what went wrong?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

we all eat food

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 14, 2005
Messages
269
Reaction score
1
Age
37
shes trying to play hard to get, your giving her too much attention, go game other girls in the meantime and then go back to her out of the blue
 

toddC

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jul 28, 2005
Messages
421
Reaction score
0
yea but how long is "out of the blue" my last time talking to her was last thursday
 

Skilla_Staz

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 2, 2006
Messages
2,214
Reaction score
10
Age
37
Location
Omaha, Nebraska
Last Thursday? Tomorrow would be a good time to just call her up. Keep the conversation extremely short and invite her to hang out. Don't ask her, invite her. Already have something going on and INVITE her to go with you.

Stop with all the texting. It's too easy to dump out information that may come off as AFC when you text. The whole lack of face-to-face stuff sort of removes all inhibitions when you're talking.
 

Christick

Don Juan
Joined
Jul 10, 2006
Messages
10
Reaction score
0
My own rule:

"To talk to a woman, you must hear her voice."

Is she such a great girl that you would invest all of your time into her?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

Zerotwoonenine

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Apr 20, 2006
Messages
450
Reaction score
5
Location
London
idiot, you should have called her, anyway dont next her, keep her on the list for a while, see how things go.
 

Mr_rogers

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Mar 27, 2006
Messages
485
Reaction score
5
Location
Ontario, Canada
Zerotwoonenine said:
idiot, you should have called her, anyway dont next her, keep her on the list for a while, see how things go.
He isn't an idiot, he's learning, like many people here.
 

UltimateScoundrel

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 18, 2001
Messages
518
Reaction score
2
You're too desperate for her attention. She doesn't IM you back, so you call her on it. She didn't text you back because she most likely considered the conversation light and unimportant to her. By bringing it up, acknowledging that it happened, you show her that her attention is important to you and she doesn't need to do anything special to get yours. She's enjoying all of this attention and so she tells you to call her. Just a test, just to see if you will, and just like she wanted you did.

Right now, she's playing you, trying to get your attention and toying with you. What you need to do is stop, back off for a while and play it cool, go work soem other girls. She'll wonder why you suddenly broke of contact, she'll become curious as she no longer understands your behavior. You will have become a mystery....to some extent.
 

toddC

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jul 28, 2005
Messages
421
Reaction score
0
Well I came home one night drunk and called her out on it...but that was about it...that was the first time i texted her and she answered a few times but then stopped. I called her out on it and she texted me the next day blah blah but ya i know what you guys mean...i haven't talked to her in a while.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Top