I don't know if I'm really asking for advice or typing this out for self-reflection. Still, it would be good to get some input on this rather silly situation.
For context, she is in her late 20's. No kids. Eastern European but spent most of her life here. Very attractive - easily an 8. She's also intelligent and has a decent job (although I make a lot more than she does). We met about four months ago and started seeing each other exclusively almost right away. Three things conspired to make me move faster than usual. One, we had a strong connection. Not only was there mutual attraction but we also have the same views on social and political issues (which doesn't happen often, as I live in a very left-leaning city). Two, because of severe COVID-related lockdowns/restrictions around here, meeting new people is a major pain in the @ss at the moment. And three, we live very close to each other. Now, there were a number of red flags as well, which made me skeptical as to whether things would work out in the long run, but at the end of the day, having a steady supply of nice pvssy within walking distance was an attractive proposition even if it wasn't meant to last forever.
Things were fine for the first couple of months but we had two big fights recently (both initiated by her) and broke up this weekend. The gist of her complaints is that she thinks that I didn't show her enough affection. Now keep in mind, we spent every weekend together and also saw each other once or twice during the week as well. Sex was good (we banged every time we met and she never said no to sex). However, she wanted me to text her more during the week (like good morning/good night texts and general lovey dovey crap). I am not a big fan of superficial texting but I told her that I could make more of an effort, as long as it was mutual (i.e. she would have to initiate, too). That was after our first big fight and we both started texting each other more often after that.
Another thing that she kept complaining about was that I didn't do"romantic" things for her, like buying flowers, chocolates, small gifts, etc. In her mind, those things are signs of affection. I was rather annoyed by this, as I always paid when we went out or ordered food, bought alcohol, etc. Basically, I paid for everything when we did stuff together. I bought her a nice Christmas gift too. So this really felt like an unfair complaint.
With all of this in mind, our second fight happened this weekend when we went shopping. She got herself a potted plant for her condo and I got a couple of things for myself. We went to a self-checkout register, I scanned and paid for my items and waited for her to pay for her plant. As soon as we left the store, she had a complete meltdown. Accused me of being "cheap" and said if I don't buy her flowers, at least I could have bought her the potted plant. She said that it was easy for me to make a romantic gesture and that I chose not to do so, which made her feel like she "didn't have a boyfriend". She also made it known that once we got back, she was going to pick up her stuff from my place (she only had her makeup and skincare there).
Now I just couldn't believe that she was having such a freak-out over a damn potted plant!! LOL. I was also pretty pissed off by the fact that she called me "cheap" and by her attitude in general but I kept my cool and said "whatever". We drove back in silence and then she went up to my place, picked up her stuff, said "thanks for everything, good luck" (non-sarcastically) and left.
What I find annoying about this whole situation is that I don't know if she was gaslighting me or if she was genuinely upset. If she did this to provoke a reaction, then obviously, fvck her. If she was genuinely upset, she was still being unreasonable, obviously, but as we all know, women are unreasonable in general and attractive women even more so. In that case, I could see myself reaching out and trying to patch things up to stretch this relationship out for another few months. Although, I have to say that my patience is running thin and I'm getting tired of her drama.
What do you guys think?
