Girl cancels on a date she suggested

[Hollywood4life]

I Made plans with a girl I approached 4 days ago today (she’s acted extremely interested / quick long texts,a big smile ioi that lead me to approach her)

She texted me today asking when we’re gonna “chill” so I asked what her schedule looks like ..

She said literally any day of the week after 3pm ,so we set the date for saturday

2hrs later I forgot that we didn’t make concrete plans what were gonna do or where we’re gonna meet,we just agreed on the day and time...(I’m a newbie/idiot ) so I messaged her that we’re gonna meet downtown, walk around and grab food

All the sudden she messaged me back canceling saying she just booked tickets to a cedar point 2 states away on the fly Saturday and can’t make and that she was really sorry ..

I’m pretty sure I framed it too much of a date and scared her off with the grab food line?



I haven’t messaged her back yet, I’m new so any help would be appreciated, I had a similar flake 2 weeks ago and need some advice and how to message them back

 

[Georgepithyou]

I’m pretty sure I framed it too much of a date and scared her off with the grab food line?

It's likely that is was just low interest on her part and the concert was an excuse. Not much you can do besides find new girls

 

[Velasco]

Attraction Has an Expiration Date

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[DEEZEDBRAH]

Block + delete &&& stunt (pull hotter and younger).

 

[B80]

I'd just say 'OK, take care. If she doesn't text back, you know it's low interest for 1 reason or another - which it probably is already judging by her actions.You never know, she may return and be up for sex - which may be useful, assuming you don't have much abundance at present.

Definitely wouldn't push for another date or you'll look desperate. Up to her to suggest another date now.

 

[f283000]

Never delete or block a girl's number.

Chicks (sometimes) circle back around.

That's living in hope. Men don't live in hope we live in a world based on facts and logic.

There's billions of women in the world. I'm not keeping the thought and energy of a woman that disrespected me. You keeping her contact on your phone is keeping her energy there in your life in the hope "she circles back around."

 

[Datinglife26]

I disagree. But, it's all good.

I am on the fence with this one.

If a girl is disrespectful to you or acting in a way that is completely off putting or is blowing hot and cold and being kinda bitchy, deleting her from your social media (not blocking) I think is acceptable.

The idea is that the more she acts up, the harder you become to attain.
If she isn't willing to go out of her way then it's her loss.

 

[Glassguy]

Just tell her to hit you up if she wants to hang out when she gets back. She will either hit you up when she gets back or you'll never hear from her again.

You win either way.

 

[Bingo-Player]

In these situations coaxing is pointless

She cancelled , she offered no counter offer

For a first offence she doesn't need to be blocked or removed , she just needs to be frozen out

IF she reinitiates contact ( she should feel obliged too given the circumstances) and she understands your not someone that's happy to allow their time to be wasted then you can try to reschedule if she does it again then she gets blocked

2 strikes and your out

This is a good example of a critical stumbling block nearly every guy including myself has fallen over .... girls pull these stunts because they know they can get away with it have had so many men chase them afterwards

Only dead fish go with the flow.......

 

[MatureDJ]

Some Chad mogged you.

Go spin more plates.

 

[Lookatu]

She texted me today asking when we’re gonna “chill” so I asked what her schedule looks like ..

She said literally any day of the week after 3pm ,so we set the date for saturday

2hrs later I forgot that we didn’t make concrete plans what were gonna do or where we’re gonna meet,we just agreed on the day and time...(I’m a newbie/idiot ) so I messaged her that we’re gonna meet downtown, walk around and grab food

All the sudden she messaged me back canceling saying she just booked tickets to a cedar point 2 states away on the fly Saturday and can’t make and that she was really sorry ..

I’m pretty sure I framed it too much of a date and scared her off with the grab food line?

Another possible angle was that she was DTF and didn't wanna hassle with all the formalities. Reason why I say this is because she texted you and asked when you wanted to "chill". Chill can take on a lot of meanings.
Secondly, she made her whole schedule available to you.

If she was DTF, you might've killed the vibe when you tried to setup a formal date rather than asking her to "hang out" at your place.

When she said she was flying out Saturday, you could've just pulled a hail mary and asked at that point if she wanted to just "chill" at your place before she left.

What was her age?

 

[Hollywood4life]

No response f

Another possible angle was that she was DTF and didn't wanna hassle with all the formalities. Reason why I say this is because she texted you and asked when you wanted to "chill". Chill can take on a lot of meanings.
Secondly, she made her whole schedule available to you.

If she was DTF, you might've killed the vibe when you tried to setup a formal date rather than asking her to "hang out" at your place.

When she said she was flying out Saturday, you could've just pulled a hail mary and asked at that point if she wanted to just "chill" at your place before she left.

What was her age?

18

 

[Young OG]

I Made plans with a girl I approached 4 days ago today (she’s acted extremely interested / quick long texts,a big smile ioi that lead me to approach her)

She texted me today asking when we’re gonna “chill” so I asked what her schedule looks like ..

She said literally any day of the week after 3pm ,so we set the date for saturday

2hrs later I forgot that we didn’t make concrete plans what were gonna do or where we’re gonna meet,we just agreed on the day and time...(I’m a newbie/idiot ) so I messaged her that we’re gonna meet downtown, walk around and grab food

All the sudden she messaged me back canceling saying she just booked tickets to a cedar point 2 states away on the fly Saturday and can’t make and that she was really sorry ..

I’m pretty sure I framed it too much of a date and scared her off with the grab food line?



I haven’t messaged her back yet, I’m new so any help would be appreciated, I had a similar flake 2 weeks ago and need some advice and how to message them back

Sound like low interest. She sees you as low value. Do you think she would have pulled this on Channing Tatum? She knew she had plans with you and made new plans do something else without you. She disrespected you. I honestly wouldn't even reply and I would just move on.

 

[Young OG]

I think every guy needs to ask himself this question when wondering about interest levels. Though I agree with lookatu, in that she was probably dtf, and not interested in the dating experience.

Very true. She might have been dtf and not interested in the dating experience but the interest level wasn't high enough to stop her from making different plans without him.

 

[darksprezzatura]

Block + delete &&& stunt (pull hotter and younger).

Listen to this guy

 

[SW15]

Always make concrete plans. Do as little communicating through text message as possible.

Attraction Has an Expiration Date

A guy meets a girl he likes. He starts talking to her, and there's electricity in the air. Attraction. He can tell she likes him. A lot, even. She tells him all kinds of things about herself, her eyes wide and filled with excitement. It feels as though there's a bubble around them, in which only...

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I read this article years ago and agreed with it. Still agree with it.

She cancelled , she offered no counter offer

For a first offence she doesn't need to be blocked or removed , she just needs to be frozen out

Any time a woman cancels with no counter offer, she must be deleted from your phone.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

This is somebody who stands out to me as extremely impulsive, asking you out, booking tickets for a piece of time that was previously free but only chose to book said tickets once time was already spoken for.

This is all bad and if we keep looking it's probably not gonna get better, it rarely does.

 

[bat soup]

I Made plans with a girl I approached 4 days ago today (she’s acted extremely interested / quick long texts,a big smile ioi that lead me to approach her)

She texted me today asking when we’re gonna “chill” so I asked what her schedule looks like ..

She said literally any day of the week after 3pm ,so we set the date for saturday

2hrs later I forgot that we didn’t make concrete plans what were gonna do or where we’re gonna meet,we just agreed on the day and time...(I’m a newbie/idiot ) so I messaged her that we’re gonna meet downtown, walk around and grab food

All the sudden she messaged me back canceling saying she just booked tickets to a cedar point 2 states away on the fly Saturday and can’t make and that she was really sorry ..

I’m pretty sure I framed it too much of a date and scared her off with the grab food line?



I haven’t messaged her back yet, I’m new so any help would be appreciated, I had a similar flake 2 weeks ago and need some advice and how to message them back

When I'm just about to go on a date with a hot girl, I always end up booking tickets to Cedar Point the day before the date and I'm always really sorry.

 

[nismo-4]

Never delete or block a girl's number.

Chicks (sometimes) circle back around.

Why hold that false hope? There's a 1/256 chance she'll circle back, and even then is it for an alpha role? Most times she calls for some beta roles because her orbiters all ghosted or turned alpha (or at least refused to be beta servants).

Stop reaching. Why would you hold a long list of dead ends, dead leads, and women who think you look better dead? So you could be their ego booster a year later after I blew their backs and fronts out? Hell no.

 

[nismo-4]

It's not false hope. It's just the simple act of not deleting her number. I'll move on with my life and onto other women...just with her number still in my phone.

You just handle things different, I'm just glad you're not doing some simp stuff.