So I'm on the bus and this dude is like daring me to take my shirt off. And yeah, we're all having a fun time and this one girl on the bus says "I'll take it off if you take it off" and I'm all "I'm not sure I would want to see that" and she's like "What did you just say? Assh*le". She wasn't really mad after I said it. Then I actually take my shirt off and I'm like "A little gift to the ladies" and everyone's attention is on me. Main thing is, I don't know if she meant that in a good way or a bad way.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Girl called me an assh*le... good or bad?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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hahahahah
Flawless Victory.
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Flawless Victory.
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Doesn't really matter now, does it? You didn't capitalize on it, regardless of if she was mad or not.
BTW, why didn't you want to see it? And if you weren't interested in her, then why do you care if she meant it in a good or bad way?
This whole thread doesn't make much sense to me.
BTW, why didn't you want to see it? And if you weren't interested in her, then why do you care if she meant it in a good or bad way?
This whole thread doesn't make much sense to me.
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When you said "I'm not sure I would want to see that" she may of taken it as an insult.
Whether she is angry or not?
This one is hard to judge as its a you have to of been there kind of scenario.
Only way you're going to know the answer is to have further interactions with this chick.
Whether she is angry or not?
This one is hard to judge as its a you have to of been there kind of scenario.
Only way you're going to know the answer is to have further interactions with this chick.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Who cares.
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I think this was the right situation to come off as horny. At the least, you could have called her to her bet.
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Think some of u guys take ****y n funny too far, it's ok now n again, you gotta be one THICK BASTARD if ya using it on a girl uv only just met.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Francisco d'Anconia
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You could have said better c/f responces which wouldn't have gotten you called an ******* and would have allowed you to continue the conversation.
WesCottII
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Why does it strike me that they're taking the mick outta you?
In any case, who gives a damn?
In any case, who gives a damn?
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Care to translate for those of us not from England? lol.WesCottII said:
WesCottII
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Haha.
Well, it seems to me that all the people are taking the p*ss, because ElStud makes out he has no friends, and all of a sudden the guys on the bus are trying to get him to take his shirt off and he's the centre of attention? Just seems like a bit prankish.
Well, it seems to me that all the people are taking the p*ss, because ElStud makes out he has no friends, and all of a sudden the guys on the bus are trying to get him to take his shirt off and he's the centre of attention? Just seems like a bit prankish.
Wrong. I've actually been the center of attention on the bus for a while and THEY'RE laughing at my jokes. FYI the whole thing started when I dared one of my friends on the bus that I could take my shirt off right there and now. And also FYI I was controlling the conversation LONG after that. Also I've known these people for a while. Haha, do you think a girl I just met would of offered to take her shirt off for me even jokingly? No. Don't make assumptions.WesCottII said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I think she was playing.ElStud said:
Either way, in this case, you can take it as a compliment.
Ha ha. One guy once called me the "Antagonistic bad boy of magic" when he was trying to pick one of his usual stupid fights. I wouldn't go to his level, so he called me this.
So I repeat it everywhere I go. Heh. I'll even announce myself as this when I'm performing in character. And it gets a big laugh.
"Hi ladies, I'm the antagonistical bad boy of magic." Heh.
I think that the younger women are, the more blatent their flirting usually is.
A woman who's smiling and looking shocked is flirting with you when she calls you an "as$h@le."
I was teaching and a girl with a crush on me (why are they all waaaaay too young? ugh!) smacked me for making fun of her; one of the children saw it, and I had to try and explain why she smacked me and why I didn't hit back or complain...lol
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DING DING DING DING DING!cNfny said:
Give this brother a prize because that's exactly what happened. Tonality is everything. You tried to come off as suave but it ended up being childish and abrasive.
Maybe next time.
The Juan and only
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:crackup:KarmaSutra said:
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"if she cant take a joke, fvck her!"
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penkitten
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sheesh
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.